"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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alright, i have a bit of a problem, but i'm not even sure it's a problem.

- on new years eve, i brought home a girl that i met through a friend
- got her number, said i would call, but i haven't. i'm not interested. it was a one night thing for me.
- she's been calling me tonight really late, and i haven't answered. she hasn't left a message.
- i feel guilty

now, the question is....should i feel guilty? i mean...yes, i'm a bastard for saying i would call and not calling, but...am i obligated to? i guess what i'm asking is....if you take home a girl the first night you meet her, does she rightfully have an expectation that the guy should continue to pursue it? or is my behaviour acceptable?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Sounds like you had an enjoyable new years for the most part. :)

As far as you telling her you would call her, and not doing it is probably a little on the poor mannered side, and since you met her through a friend you should think of the repercussions that that may cause.

As far as being obligated to pursue anything, of course not. If it was a one night thing, then it was a one night thing. But as a nice thing to do, it never hurts to communicate the fact. You could still call her, or answer her calls, and tell her that A) you were drunk and had a good time, etc want to leave it at that, etc LJBF her, and atleast that way she wont hate you as much as never hearing from you again. And since you have mutual friends that could potentially bite you in the future. B) Call her, shmooz, keep her on the back burner if you are a real sh!t head, (but hey, who isnt, right?) for whenever.

Its up to you, but no, you arent obligated.

Though etiquette wise, it would probably be the nice thing to do to atleast tell her what is going on, wouldnt you want the same?
 
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Ya I have to agree, I would at least tell her that it was what it was and then you can cut contact.

She'll of course get that message after time by ignoring her but you think that would be how you would want it done to you by a friends' buddy? Also women talk eh?
 
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Good stuff!

Andromax: i see that u have joined recently... but i also see that you know what you are talking about, nice to see people like you on there forums;)

Otherwise....


kman1: what Andromax said pretty much sums it up very well... heed his advise...

Goodluck;)
 
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