"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hooking up with two girls that know each other

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Quick story - dated a girl for a month or two (Girl 1) , now dating another girl (Girl 2) that she kind of knows. They don't like each other.

All in person conversation

G2: Did you sleep with Girl 1?
Me: We dated
G2: Yes but did you sleep with her?
Me: Why are you asking me this?
G2: Because I want to know.
Me: (silence)
G2: So did you?
Me: A gentleman never tells
G2: Well if we are going to have sex again I need to know.
Me: OK
...
G2: So did you?
Me: What do you think?
G2: That you did.
Me: OK
G2: Well?
Me: Well...
G2: You have to tell me.
Me: What does it matter who I dated before you? I'm sure you've dated people and I don't want to know anything about them.
G2: I'll tell you everyone I've hooked up with.
Me: I don't care about that.
G2: Well I do.
Me: OK

She's all pissy and I'm ignoring her.

Do I ever tell her or just keep blowing it off? I really do not care what she thinks, and I don't think she's going to leave. But if she does, whatever.

I do not want to waste any more energy talking about it with her.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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I wouldnt...girls can be suprisingly cool about hooking up with the same guy IF they are friends and IF they dont get jealous of each other...

If these girls know each other than you have to be careful. If girl 1 doesnt like G2 and gets pissed, she will tell the girls in her social circle about you and frame you in a negative light, and your reputation will be pretty trashed within that social circle. If you piss off G2 too much, she could just break it off with you and then do something similar, telling her friends that you're an a**hole and ruining your reputation with them too.

In general it is risky to date girls that know each other, UNLESS you know for a fact that they're okay with it. It could blow up in your face.

If they are just acquaintances and dont really share friends and stuff than you're probably fine. Otherwise, it's probably not worth it
 
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Don't tell her. Tell her you really don't care if she has sex with you and you have more important things to worry about.
 
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I think the best thing is what you tried to do....bottom line..."I do not think it is appropriate for me to discuss whom I slept with or not slept with" PERIOD! Abe
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Uncharted said:
G2: Well if we are going to have sex again I need to know.
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I'm not sure about other guys here, but when someone gives me an ultimatum, I take the 'or else' pretty much every time, especially when it's something as pathetic as this.

"You have to tell me"??? Like f*** I do!
 
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OP, I give you a mission if you choose to accept it - FVCK HER WITHOUT TELLING HER ANYTHING WHAT YOU DID WITH THE OTHER GIRL.

Time to show your DJ skills off....
 
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Cremasta said:
I'm not sure about other guys here, but when someone gives me an ultimatum, I take the 'or else' pretty much every time, especially when it's something as pathetic as this.

"You have to tell me"??? Like f*** I do!
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:crackup: lol yeah sounds familiar. i lost some chicks because of this, same attitude. with ultimatums like this she's basically telling you "i don't care about you, but you need me, and you are my inferior, so you will do what i say or else"

well guess what, sweetie, it's "or else"

usually they are bluffing anyway and crawl back with their tails between their legs.
 
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