Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hooking up with a Playboy model with violent BF - good or bad - opinions?

harrison9876

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Well...

I complete CONTRADICTION to my AFC post from today...

8 months ago, a girl (40's) stopped by my place at 3:00am. She had 4 dogs with her...and is dressed in only a long T-shirt.

Her boyfriend supposedly pulled a knife on her, and threatened her.

She mistook my door for someone else's.

I let her in...we chatted for an hour or so.

When she left, she wanted my number (in-case she needed to call me that night)...so I gave it to her. She called me up the next day to see if I wanted to hang out.

With my really sh*itty read on women...I really did not know what she wanted...so I passed.

I dunno...something about the violent BF bothered me, I guess.

We connected over Facebook a couple months later.

A few days ago, we had an interesting FB convo.

I was feeling ****ty about the girl I mentioned in my other post from today...so I started chatting with her about that...

As the convo progressed...she revealed that the night she came over, she was really into me...which I had no clue. Told me she thought I was mega hot - great body, eyes, smile, etc...and she wanted to do something that night, but thought it would have been difficult with the dogs being there.

I joked around about the fact that she has a BF...and she replied, "I'm not married"...she then further to tell me that he is 24, and she feels she needs an older guy...a lover.

The convo got fairly sexual, with her and I realizing our sexual wants/needs/turn-ons are the same.
She is very sexually aggressive....and there is a very open invitation to hook-up. She would be AMAZINGLY FUN...but I hesitate for a couple of reasons:

1) the violent BF
2) my current lack of self-confidence due to my recent fvck up with a girl I really liked

Also feeling like I am in a sh*tty, low, crappy, hard on myself, feeling like garbage mood...

Thoughts on who would pull the trigger in this situation?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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and than you woke up? I'm sorry but am I missing something here? if this allegedly true why would you even entertain this?
 

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she showed you red flags and that she IS drama. if you invite her in, you get to play with all her drama too AND she knows where you live.
I woudlnt
 

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Haha...

Yes its true.

Probably because these are the only types of women I attract.

I dunno...Maybe I am the one with the issues....:(

I actually moved since she showed up at my door a few months ago...So no worries there.
 
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Make sure you get her pregnant and while you're at it, see if you can get her a job where you work.

All joking aside, how many chromosomes do you have?

You do realize she's probably the violent one right? You just passed the captain save a ho test and she put you far down the list. But the other CSAH's passed.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I knew she lived down the street from me. Ran into her a few times here and there...nothing crazy.

She is friends with my neighbor...rather than knocking on her door at 3 am...she knocked on mine, thinking it was her friend's place.

It was not premeditated.

I invited her in, as she seemed scared as shyt.
 
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