Alright so I'm going to college next year, but Im still a virgin. So there's that thing that it's easy to have random hookups in college, especially the college I'm going to. Is it recommended to hookup and lose your virginity to some chick you don't know? Or is it true that you really get attached to your first timer, emotionally? I don't want to have to chase her around after hooking up with her (or the other way around), unless she's my girlfriend. So in college, should I just get a real girlfriend or hookup with some girl I knew for 2 minutes
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
hooking up, but i'm a virgin?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I didn't.
Most men have the mindset that women are either one night stands, or exclusive girlfriends. You can mix and match. It's the only way to get close to being 100% satisfied.
You can have a girlfriend you date and get to know why dating other women too.
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It's a personal preference. Some guys just want to get the sex thing over with and have a one night stand. Others insist that it be with a girlfriend. It's not that you necessary get ATTACHED to your first, it's just that it's an experience you will always remember. Most guys remember their first experience and her name, as opposed to every other girl that comes afterwards lol.ToZe said:
So, it's up to you. However, I personally do not recommend a one night stand for your first time. I would suggest someone that you're really comfortable with and that's a girlfriend, so be it. Someone like that will take their time with you and you can really experiment with her with different positions, etc. A one night stand chick will be more selfish and only care about getting herself off lol.
Furyguy
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Nope, not at all. This happens to chicks, not us.
My only advice, one night stand OR girlfriend, is to let it happen naturally. If you're having second thoughts and not feeling at ease, then she's probably not the right one for you.
Let it happen, let it be fun and natural. If your instincts are screaming No then you should listen to em. Don't get laid just to get it over with, do it because you really WANT the girl you're with.
From my own experience, NOT true at all. My first time was with a girl I had just met and the experience was ****ing amazing. I don't regret it at all. This compared to me almost-****ing a few girls I had known and been comfortable with for quite a while and it just wasn't the same. Sometimes you just click really well with a person, and if you do, just go with it IMO.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
GlennCoCo
Don Juan
Value your first time you have sex with an actual GF, once you break up...go all out on other girls.
Alright thanks for the tips guys. I don't really care too much about who I lose my virginity too much (but she has to be really good looking 
) as long as there's no "emotional attachment" I hear from high school sex ed lol, so only girls have it. Ok thanks for clearing it up
) as long as there's no "emotional attachment" I hear from high school sex ed lol, so only girls have it. Ok thanks for clearing it upWe understand, but it's uncanny how many guys on here who have little or no experience want their first sex to be with the hottest girl. And the longer they go without losing it, the hotter the girl has to be.ToZe said:I don't really care too much about who I lose my virginity too much (but she has to be really good looking
When you get hired for your first job, do you ask a million dollars or do you pay your dues for years and years before becoming successful?
That's a poor analogy. You don't have to start off with the ugly girls and work your way up to the hot ones. Of course, too high a standards are too high a standards but that doesn't mean you have to lose your virginity to an ugly munter.DonJuan11 said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I would recommend this as well, but I interpret it differently.villshah said:
I lost mine to a girl who was much more experienced, I remained detached, and she taught me a lot when I stayed with her. She became attached and it got dirty. My school taught me abstinence instead of responsibility :trouble:
My buddy lost it in a foursome. That amazes me, because at first, I didn't last much longer than a minute--I had no idea what was going on. He banged two chicks with his buddy like a natural, and he loves the memory.
Make the best of it however life comes at you.
I'd have to agree w/ DonJuan 11 on this one...
Sure, don't hook up with some nasty chick just to say you're not a virgin anymore, however, you do need some experience fast!
You don't want to have the problem that you wait until you find a girl you really care for, just for her to leave you because you don't know what you're doing in bed and the sex is terrible... So get as much poonani as you can before you get attached to a girl
Sure, don't hook up with some nasty chick just to say you're not a virgin anymore, however, you do need some experience fast!
You don't want to have the problem that you wait until you find a girl you really care for, just for her to leave you because you don't know what you're doing in bed and the sex is terrible... So get as much poonani as you can before you get attached to a girl