Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hooked up with girl; akward now

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I was talking with a natural about this and he happened to point out that some chicks will do such as MJ said (a high majority). But he also said there are some girls who are too shy and will not come chase you back. What if she's one of these chicks? Give it a couple weeks?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Had a buddy send a text message to her from his phone, and they don't know each other. She hasn't replied yet, making me believe that maybe she had her phone taken away.
 

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What if she's one of these chicks? Give it a couple weeks?
She isn't. Don't message her, forget about her. Move on. You've got oneitis bro, first step is moving on.

Had a buddy send a text message to her from his phone, and they don't know each other. She hasn't replied yet, making me believe that maybe she had her phone taken away.
Umm no. It means she doesn't reply to text messages from phones that she doesn't know. And you really need to stop this sort of behavior. This girl is probably a lost cause, but doing crap like that will ENSURE you have no chance with her and further solidifies AFC behavior in your mind.

Walk away. Delete her from your cell phone. Go talk to some people. MOVE ON!!!
 

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Yeah you're right dude, I felt sorta creepy doing that. It's not my usual practice dude, I'm so used to chicks clinging right away after hooking up that she surprised me and got me wondering. I'll delete her from my phone right now, and leave it up to her to call me/talk to me at school.
 

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I catch her staring at me almost every day in my history class. I'll keep eye contact and eventually she'll look back down at her paper or I'll look away after about 4 seconds.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Serious oneitis you got going here man. Stop. Stop watching her, stop thinking about her, just stop everything her.
 

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I'm confused here.

This community stresses maintaining dominance and one way is to hold eye contact. So now I have to look away when she looks at me? I'm not sure if I stated that when I look up I catch HER LOOKING AT ME. I don't initiate eye contact!
 

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Staring a girl down is not going to make her like you. Its just kind of creepy when people do that.

Some guys here talk about staring at someone until the other person breaks the eye contact as some sort of dominance thing. But its just wierd when people do that. Eye contact IS important, but staring fools down for no reason won't get you where you want to be
 

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Well boys I've came to the conclusion that she has low interest or is afraid to associate with me after alot of people found out (shattered her good girl image).

Should I call her and ask her to come to a party tonight and if she doesn't answer/decline don't care and move on, or just keep continuing with my silence? I kind of want to clear the air and know if I should just drop this plate for good.
 

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Chick was feeling guilty.... she just sent me Ex an apology text:

"she just said sorry.didn't plan it. wont happen again. hope i understand. sorry it took so long to say this."

God damnit.

Listen to me. Don't expect to date your ex's friends...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I starting to believe I'm no longer attracted to my ex. Is there anyway to still go after this chick for sex? She's only acting distant from me due to the fact I was her good friend's ex-boyfriend and she felt bad.
 

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I had a similar situation...all gravy until the shyt went public and her rep got put on the line. Then contact stopped.

This is usually with young girls that you just met...

I don't have any good advice on what to do though, I just nexted her. Nothing lost, but nothing gained, either.

So, good question. There must be some protocol for this. And if not, there needs to be!
 
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Hahaha, sometimes I crack myself up :D This is what you do...

When you catch her looking at you, hold up your finger that did "THE" deed to her and move it up and down so gently and very slowly and then make a facial expression as if you are moaning!!! See what is her reaction :up:
 

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It's things like this that teach you an important lesson in life: the only real secrets are those you keep to yourself. Tell somebody something gossip-worthy and lo and behold, it will find it's way around no matter who you told it to.
 

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Master Bates another lesson this should teach this guy is this:

WAKE UP.

Yes, Wake Up. I laugh at guys, who have no vaginas, no babies to carry, no nothing...and they sit around and act like women...and wont' go out and get laid by multiple chicks.

They analyze, analyze, analyze, and analzye. They keep trying to come up with theories so that they wont' BE REJECTED. They keep trying to come up with theories so they wont' LOSE A CHICK. Hey, do me a favor okay? Lose the bytch. Let her reject you.

Do you NOT understand, that you CANNOT be accepted by all chicks? You can't.

There's no theories when it comes to this stuff. All there is not being afraid of your horniness, and meeting a good number of women on a daily and weekly basis.

GET LAID, for goodness sakes.

You're going to wake up and be 40 years old, and look back and say, Damn, when I was in my 20's, I wish I would have just not CARED so much and just went out, TOOK THE REJECTIONS, TOOK THE WINS, TOOK THE LOSES, but overall, at the end of the game, I would have at least been standing with my hand raised.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm going to rail this chick one way or another I swear to you! There's a good chance she'll be at the same party as me next weekend. We'll see what happens. I'll tell her I won't say a peep :).
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Hahaha, sometimes I crack myself up :D This is what you do...

When you catch her looking at you, hold up your finger that did "THE" deed to her and move it up and down so gently and very slowly and then make a facial expression as if you are moaning!!! See what is her reaction :up:
You crack me up man!!!

This is GOLDEN!
 

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I think she might be into me. I was walking down the hall the other day, just minding my business and looking forward. I felt the gaze of someone upon me and low and behold she was staring me in the eyes. I looked right back at her and met her eyes as we walked by. I didn't even notice who she was until I passed her. It was odd to explain. We must of held eye contact for a solid 4-5 seconds.

She apologized to my ex, saying "it would never happen again." I have a feeling I can get that to change.
 

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You need to **** or get of the pot. You've had this post open for about a month now.

So let's look at the facts:
You made out with her.
Later you fingered her at a party
She's staring you down in the halls and talking all about you to her best friend

And every couple of days you post that you "think she likes you." No **** man. Ray Charles can see that. So make your move. She'll get tired of you soon if she keeps giving you buying signals and you don't make a move.
 

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I don't know how "buy" this one. She texted my ex saying she was sorry and that it would never happen again, perhaps to salvage her relationship and had no meaning to it. I never really have any opportune time to open a conversation with her in school, so I must relagate to texting and phone calls.

Best to ask her to go to a movie or something?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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