"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hooked up with chick on New Year's, should I text her?

damaster123

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Alright, this chick was digging me on New Year's we obv, made out when the clock struck midnight, and she let me kiss her neck and shiit and was into it. But she isn't one of those chicks who **** on the first time meeting, so I couldn't lay the pipe.

So my question to you is what's the Don Juan move for getting her to hang out with me tonite? Is texting her anti Don- Juan? Should I just call her around 8 and say me and my boys are drinking at XXX bar, come get ****ed up with us. I kinda want to text her right now and ask her if she's free tonite, but I think that would be an AFC move. Thanks for the help
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Austrian88

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prefer calling her to texting her... texting suck on such occasions. that's my opinion ;)
 

flexion_

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Don't call her to go out the same night. Give her a little notice.

I think in today's electronic world texting is just as good as calling as long as you are brief and keep real conversation for when you meet in person.
 

JPFromTally

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If I was a chick and some dude asked me out through a text message I'd think he was a complete loser. Pick up the phone and call.
 

ryannath

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I never text and when a girl texts me I never text back, and then I call them and tell me not to text me, cause that **** costs me like 10 cents a text. And, I call them on their bs, and tell them they are chicken to call me. They understand.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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