hooked up at party, haven't heard from her since

[DJ Axton]

ok that may have sounded like a stupid title but I'm crap at subjects. Just read and advice would be great.

So I met thus girl a few months ago, but we were never really friends, we just talked acouple of times at college since when we ran into eahother in the halls.

Well I went to this party a few days ago and a few hours in she turned up purely by chance. Since I was like the only person she knows she talked to me a lot and within half an hour we were making out on the sofa, and we spent the night in that very spot. She wasn't too drunk cause she got their quite late and I don't drink that much anyway. But at some point I asked her "is this just some drunk thing?". To that she explaned that she fancied me since we first met, and she told me to punch my number into her phone, and that she would text me he next day.

Well its been a few days and she hasn't texted me. I don't whether that was by choice or I put the number in wrong (on account of being drunk) but I just clicked with this girl and if she has a chance at being one of he vey few girls I can actually commit to then I'd like to seize the chance.

Basically, is there a way I can get into contact with her without seeming too AFC? Cause I dont go back to collge for a couple weeks now.

 

[noirsake]

Relax. She's got your number, it's her move next. It has only been a few days so if she was drunk, she may not remember you putting her number in her phone, or even making out with you. Don't worry about contacting her, if you did, you would basically be saying that you are needy.

 

[Moly]

that's why you always have to make sure you get her number and not vice versa.

You can't really do much right now without looking afc. Just wait until she texts or until you see her in person. In the meantime try to hook up with other girls to prevent a case of one-itis

 

[DJ Axton]

that's i what I thought. my worry was just that maybe I'd given her the wrong number in which case if she was trying to text me then she may think I'm blowing her off. She definitely remembers the whole thing cause we talked about it the next morning (not like a long talk she just clearly remembered everything happening.

But oh well I guess ill just leave it a couple of weeks and then talk to her when we get back to college. The wait'll probably do me good cause like u said I dont want this to turn into a case of oneitis.

 

[SinJester]

From my experiance drunk hookups mean nothing, but as the girl said she has fancied you for awhile that makes it different. You made a mistake by giving her your number, she probably wont message you, girls just don't take action generally. Next time get her number and message her. Don't read to much into it, you had a good time, you got some experiance, just see where it goes

 

[2.0]

I would say if in two months she hasn't initiated contact, it would be okay to start talking to her again if you happen to run into her.

 

[MCristo]

Are we playing role reversal here? I've never heard of a guy stopping a hook up to ask where it's going before and then being surprised when the girl never calls him. Usually it's the other way around

 

[Quiksilver]

An AFC or DJ isn't a set of behaviors, per se.

You ARE an afc, or you ARE a DJ.

A DJ doesn't need a particular girl and doesn't struggle to make something happen. He knows that if this girl is interested, she will come back for more.

A DJ only pursues a girl that has shown her worth and commitment to you.

An AFC pursues a girl regardless of worth and interest toward you.

An AFC needs a particular girl and struggles to 'make it fit'. He doesn't quite understand that her interest needs to be equal to yours for anything to happen.

You are the sum of your habits, and you should start acting like a DJ.

She knows how to contact you right? If she does, then move on to another girl, and she'll come to you if she's interested.

cheers

 

[SinJester]

Quicksilver is spot on. It's something most people don't get. That's why there's so many questions like 'omg she looked at me what does that mean' and 'do girls like guys with short or long hair better' or whatever. No offense to anyone intended but a DJ doesn't need to ask questions like this, he just acts of his own initiative without caring what other people think.