Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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CrashOverRide

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Do any of you own a universal home gym? If so what kind do you have and how much did you spend for it? I don't have a lot of space in my pad, but I need one.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It depends on what your objectives are.

This is what I have in my "home gym", and my only use of it is to build muscle:

* Bench with incline adjustment
* Dumbbells x 2
* Barbell
* Weights plates - a variety of sizes

The only things that you can't do with this are leg work (which you could always go to a gym for, probably cheaper than getting a squat rack) and barbell bench presses (no spotter or other safe way to protect yourself).

It's worked well for me, and I've gained 30 pounds since March, while keeping my fitness.

I'm from Aus so costs for gear probably wouldn't match up, but compared to a decent gym membership, it will pay for itself after about a year or so of working out.
 

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I wish I had the space for a home gym. I'm not a fan of driving to the gym and fighting for equipment. I
 

The Inside Man

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I started lifting 10 years ago with a home gym, just a bench and some weights. Graduated to a "cage" for squats with some cables, could do just about all of the main exercises with it. You can do quite a bit with a couple 35 pound dumbbells too.

For my last bjj tournament I trained crossfit and with kettlebells all the time at home. Was in the best shape of my life. Check out crossfit.com lots of stuff you can do in a room or garage.
 

CrashOverRide

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Thanks for the responses. The problem is I don't have a lot of space in my pad... so I don't think I could bit a bench and cable machine. I'm thinking more like one of those universal gyms... if anyone can provide a link that would be appreciated
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jariel

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I've got my own "gym", but it's really just a weight bench, a barbell, some dumbells and a pull up bar. I do dips on two dining chairs, add in some pushups and crunches and I get the workout I need.

The downside is that I don't have a squat rack so have to keep the weight low enough for me to pick up off the ground, but I compensate by doing high reps. I also keep my bench weight quite low and do the same. But I've managed to get in real good shape this way.

Some people find that going to a gym and meeting other people motivates them, but I'm the opposite. I prefer keeping my workouts private and when my gym is only a few footsteps away, it's easier for me to fit in with my day to day schedule.
 

mikeyb

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I use the following:
-Squat rack
-Bench
-Barbells & plates
-Spotter catchers
-Pull-up bar (clamps to door frame and remove when not in use)

Cost about $400 total and thanks to the spotter catchers it's safe to bench or squat. Takes 8-9 m2 of space.
 

CaptainJ

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All a man needs is a power cage, a flat bench, an Oly bar and weights. That's the core of a home gym.
 

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All you really need is:

-barbell
-dumbbells
-bench press
-squat rack
-weight plates


You can get some bench press’s that double as a squat rack which is convenient especially for guys that are limited with space, but lacks in safety.

All that equipment I mentioned will give you the flexibility to do all necessary workouts converted into free weights.

All other equipment is an addition or unnecessary.

Jariel said:
The downside is that I don't have a squat rack so have to keep the weight low enough for me to pick up off the ground, but I compensate by doing high reps.
Same, I thought I was the only idiot to do this ;), although I'm planning to build my own squat rack for the fact it's way cheaper & is simple a project, no big deal

Here’s a link to give some ideas
http://www.home-gym-bodybuilding.com/homemade-power-rack.html
if you can’t build this your either not a man or are fvckn lazy
 

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Well according to my point of view, I think that home gym is really nice for us, while sitting at our home we can easily do many exercise, I think that many people like home gym, even I also like to do home gym.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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