"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Holy **** shes cheating on me!

Dole

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Okay I think this mom I am seeing is cheating on me.
I dont know where to start. First I want to say that I am blitzed out of my mind and this was the motive to drive by her house tonight.
Ok so she told me to call her later tonight because I had a final. So after the final around 9:15 I call her and she doesn't pick up. She usually calls back but on some rare occasions she doesn't. So my finals are done and I am calling some homies to blaze with them. So we blaze and everything its around 11 now and she still hasn't called me back. I was very curious and wasn't sure if she is just playing games, is out, or at home sleeping. So I wanted to find out for sure what her answer would be the next day why she hasn't called me back. So I am high out of my mind and decide to drive by her street. So first time i drove by her car is in front of her house. I turn around and go back one time then I see this SUV across the street from her house. Now this thing looked like a cayenne so I was like, shiet what would something like that be doing around this neighboorhood. I turn around and I drive down to street that its a SUV model that I will call X. It just happens so that her baby's father drive's an X model. Now the problem is I dont know if the guy drives the newer or the older version of the X model. Now she did mention that the father got a new truck and she was jealous of him but she never said anything that he sold the X model suv. In my mind he would have sold the model X to buy the lincoln because lets just say he don't have a wealthy career. Also we where talking about the new model X when she mentioned what the babys father drove so I am not quiet sure. Anyways I am going to find out if the drove the new model X or the older one from her. ( I also have never seen this car by her house )
Here are some reasons why she is cheating on me ( other then the matching car type):
1) She has done this to me before once or twice and calls me back around 12 and sounding tired saying she just woke up or the other time that there was a big family fight with her cousins that came over and everything
2) She wanted to play the game "What if" so I did and she said "what if I told you I was sleeping with someone else what would you do?" so I hung up on her told her only cheating ppl ask questions like that or the ones that have intentions of doing so. She said she just wanted to see my reaction
3)She had her baby's father drivers license ID in her wallet, she changed back her wallet picture to her baby son baby father and of her together.
4)She talked a lot about him one day and then following few days and told her that she needs to stop that because its making me think that her mind is somewhere else blah blah...
5) There are some other ones that I can think of but I dont really know how exactly to explain.


Yeah I feel like ****. I am going to find out for sure generation car drove and what color. If it doesn't match then wait for the next time she does this and drive by her house to be sure.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't mean to kick you when you are down, but you are being a giant afc. You took back a woman who cheated before, yet you are surprised when she does it again? Forget the b!tch and find another.
 

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^^^ Yep, that's it dude.

You've got this evidence before you, which is circumstantial, but kinda damning. Then throw in that she's cheated before?

Ugh.

Kick this trick to the curb.
 

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I dont know if she has cheated before but I am assuming that she has.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If she's cheated on you before or you're assuming she's cheating on your right now, leave her. You deserve better than that.
 

mikeyb

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You let her get away with this before. Why would she not do it again?

Leave her.
 

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Dole said:
I dont know if she has cheated before but I am assuming that she has.
It doesn't matter if she actually did or not at this point because you think she did and you will never forget that, it basically has the exact same effect.
 

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So I went back to confirm and yes it was him.
 

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so i guess now we get the full story...

let me guess: will you try to talk this out with her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
If you think she's cheating on you, she probably is. When you get a guy instinct from somebody, it usually turns out to be true. Dump her, leave her, whatever. Find someone new, someone worth having. Dont take this crap.
 

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Breasts! I like 'em. Most women have 'em, too. So, why get stuck on one set when there are a pair per each woman out in the world.

You are SOOOOOOOOOOOO co-dependent. It's like you think that whatever she does makes you feel those crappy feelings. Sh!t man, you've got to stop the madness, and realize that she has a free will and is free to do what she wants and when she wants to do it. You can't control her, and when you try to, you're done. It's over sooner than you think.

Good luck, Bro!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dole

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drak_ool said:
so i guess now we get the full story...

let me guess: will you try to talk this out with her?
She sent me a text message this morning saying the following:
her:
Sorry babe. I fell asleep really early last night. I was so tired. I woke up at like 530 and hit the gym. I miss you! =)
me:
You are dumped. Don't EVER talk to me again.

She has called me atleast 15 times thus far and sent me 10 text messages asking why, that i am acting like a child, i need to tell her why i am dumping her, to be grown up. I know that she is playing dumb and she knows why I dumped her, but she just wants to make sure that the reason is me catching her cheating.

I have not answered to any of her phone calls nor have I replied to any of her text messages, I dont plan on doing so either.

Overall this has been a great learning experience for me. Learned a lot.
 

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You should have had the balls to tell her to her face and not in a text message.

Don't be such a pvssy.

You should have controlled the frame with this chick from the beginning. She played you the way she knew she could, and you just took it.

I know because I used to be just like you.
 

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ouch. sorry man. consider it a life lesson. baby mama/baby daddy stuff is tricky...unless you KNOW they hate each other. then its a whole 'nother kind of tricky.
 

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Warrior74 said:
ouch. sorry man. consider it a life lesson. baby mama/baby daddy stuff is tricky...unless you KNOW they hate each other. then its a whole 'nother kind of tricky.
Maybe make it a point not to take care of other people's DNA from now on because if it would have worked out, that's what you would have done.
 

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Mavrick said:
Maybe make it a point not to take care of other people's DNA from now on because if it would have worked out, that's what you would have done.
lol. depends on your definition of 'worked out'. at a certian age bracket and in certian demographics its hard to find women who don't have children. You have to know what you want if you mess with women with kids.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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