"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Holy **** I need help

Dover

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Wow.

Ok I just realized how much of a puss I am when it comes to women.

I was just at the grocery store. I passed by a cute girl and made eye contact and smiled. I turned around a couple seconds later right as she was turning too and we made eye contact again. I ran into her again at the checkout and made eye contact again. She smiled, looked down and started blushing. I knew with all my heart that she was attracted to me and wanted me to go talk to her, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. Instead I paid for my things and left without looking back.

I feel like the hugest puss of all time right now. I seriously need to get this part of my life figured out. This has been something that has been nagging me for a long long time. I've always played it off in my mind like I know what I'm doing. In the past if this kind of thing happened I'd play it off like I didnt really like her anyway, or I could have got her if I had wanted to. I'd rationalize my own nervousness and not admit the truth that I was simply afraid to talk to her.

No longer. This bull**** has to stop. I guess the first step is admitting how much I don't know, which is a lot. I've read the DJ bible, I listened to some of those David D. audioseminar things but I'm still a huge puss when it comes to women and it ends right now.

The next time this kind of thing happens I swear on everything that I will go talk to her. I'll post exactly what happens here good or bad. My goal with this is to get confidence when it comes to women. I want eliminate my sense of nervousness too.

If anyone has advice or anything else for me, let me know. I'm at a point where I am ready to do whatever it takes to get this part of my life sorted out. Also if anyone lives in the Seattle area and wants to meet up for a drink and try to help a brother out hit me with a pm.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Nygard

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Right now, you're conditioned to be that. A puss with women. That is what you are. Why is it so hard? Because you're swimming against the current, you're trying to do somethign that goes against who you are.
Now, keep swimming against it if you want until it's time to swim downstreams ( and get a lot lot easier and definitely more fun but will take a lot of time and effort) or get out of the river and sit down until time's over.
 

everywomanshero

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You need to live with a hot chick for a while. Once you walk into the washroom a few times after she just took a giant **** or see all her sex toys and girl on girl porn collection, you'll realize we're all human and pretty similar biologically, so there is no logical reason to feel you can't approach someone.
 
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