"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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holy cow i'm a teddy bear now

DJArlington

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holy cow this girl told me i had the teddy bear look going for me... i guess that's just a nice way to telling me that i'm fat...

i had a very weird situation tonight. my buddy and i were kind of going after the same girl. they took a cab home together (not sure if they actually went home at all) but she gave me her number when i said that i wanted to take her out earlier in the night... this is the same girl who said i was a teddy bear. my buddy was grinding with her most of the night and he's a doctor, so i think he won the game.

this is weird when did i become so fat. i actually work out pretty often but eat like a **** head. i'm actually supposed to go out with this hot chick next week - i don't know what's going on.

back to the chick, do i even have a shot with her? i don't want know what my boy did with her. he's known as a really nice guy and man with no backbone, so i'm hoping to call her and take her out.

what do you guys think? your opinion would be very much appreciated....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJArlington said:
...back to the chick, do i even have a shot with her? i don't want know what my boy did with her. he's known as a really nice guy and man with no backbone, so i'm hoping to call her and take her out.

what do you guys think? your opinion would be very much appreciated....
Tell us more about the guy without a backbone.
 

Warboss Alex

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Plenty of women like a bit of padding. ;)

(keep telling yourself that, Alex..)
 

mpimpin

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Warboss Alex said:
Plenty of women like a bit of padding. ;)

(keep telling yourself that, Alex..)

Don't know about plenty of women but there is an HB9 I know who only goes for chubby guys.....confuses the heck out of me
 

Jariel

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Oh no, the dreaded teddy bear comment! I've heard that before in my past and it never boded well. :(

It's not necessarily all about your physical appearance. I learned that a lot of it was related to me being non-threatening, non-sexual and comfortable. The girls that used the teddy bear comment only ever saw me as a friend, but a friend who they wanted to cuddle and go places with. I always felt that these girls talked down to me too, and often used comments like "awww" in response to things I'd say.

A few tips that helped me overcome the teddy bear image...

1. Work out - aim for a good overall muscle structure and shape to your physique and ideally tone up a bit.
2. Dress and groom fashionably and a little edgy - no side or middle hair partings, no wooly jumpers or cute t-shirts etc.
3. Express your sexuality more - comment on hot women, make (subtle and inoffensive) sexual jokes and absolutely never shy away from sex talk.
4. Flirt - kino and verbally flirt more often.

Working out also makes you feel more bold and masculine, so that should help without any real conscious change to your behaviour.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I've ****ed a few girls who called me a "teddy bear". I think it's because I look intimidating and imposing, but my personality doesn't match the aesthetics.

Just respond with something about them still sleeping with teddy bears. I can't think of something exacly, because I'm drunk, but you know what I mean.
 
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