Holding Yourself to Higher Standards

[Masculinity]

Most of us have been there, rejected by an HB7 that was in your path because you didn't have enough courage to approach the HB9 that was walking by you earlier. I have found myself in this situation before. The difference is I usually get the girl when I approach, which I don't do much because I've a full college load along with two jobs. However, once I get a woman interested in me, I walk around feeling that I can do better. As a result, I'm considering something dramatically different.

From now on, I will begin going to the gym three times a week and running two times per week. Additionally, I will only approach women who are HB8's and above. It is the same game and the same sex, the only difference is your girl ends up being higher value, so why settle for less? Am I more likely to find personality flaws and b!tchy behavior in these women? Absolutely. However, I am also more likely to find a very attractive woman who is also super cool on the inside.

I invite you to join this effort and see where it takes your own game. In the interim, it would great to discuss the pros and cons of this mindset. :trouble:

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I'm going to keep practicing on hb7's.. this keeps me sharp for the hb8's and above.

I find it much easier to neg a fatty.

 

[skinnyguy]

Most of us have been there, rejected by an HB7 that was in your path because you didn't have enough courage to approach the HB9 that was walking by you earlier. I have found myself in this situation before. The difference is I usually get the girl when I approach, which I don't do much because I've a full college load along with two jobs. However, once I get a woman interested in me, I walk around feeling that I can do better. As a result, I'm considering something dramatically different.

From now on, I will begin going to the gym three times a week and running two times per week. Additionally, I will only approach women who are HB8's and above. It is the same game and the same sex, the only difference is your girl ends up being higher value, so why settle for less? Am I more likely to find personality flaws and b!tchy behavior in these women? Absolutely. However, I am also more likely to find a very attractive woman who is also super cool on the inside.

I invite you to join this effort and see where it takes your own game. In the interim, it would great to discuss the pros and cons of this mindset. :trouble:

Ok I totally get you but the thing is this. I've had that mentally my whole life, only talking to very attractive women. Now, I've been single since September and have to look VERY hard to find a woman im attracted to. Meanwhile there are two chicks in my close circle I could bang any time I want, but I don't even look at them.

I think it goes without saying I'm frustrated now. Lol. The HB 9's around here are all surrounded by c0ck all the time, it's super hard to pull.

 

[Masculinity]

I'm going to keep practicing on hb7's.. this keeps me sharp for the hb8's and above.

I find it much easier to neg a fatty.

It's actually easier to neg an HB9 because the hit is not as hard on her self-esteem, whereas an overweight woman may lose her cool.

Ok I totally get you but the thing is this. I've had that mentally my whole life, only talking to very attractive women. Now, I've been single since September and have to look VERY hard to find a woman im attracted to. Meanwhile there are two chicks in my close circle I could bang any time I want, but I don't even look at them.

I think it goes without saying I'm frustrated now. Lol. The HB 9's around here are all surrounded by c0ck all the time, it's super hard to pull.

It sounds like you may be too far at the end of the spectrum on the attractive side. This used to happen to me; I would keep telling myself "I can do better," pass on girls who were interested in me, and avoid making myself vulnerable to rejection by approaching. And let me tell you: it's a very lonely road.

What are your approaching habits like?

 

[JoesphBrown]

Most of us have been there, rejected by an HB7 that was in your path because you didn't have enough courage to approach the HB9 that was walking by you earlier. I have found myself in this situation before. The difference is I usually get the girl when I approach, which I don't do much because I've a full college load along with two jobs. However, once I get a woman interested in me, I walk around feeling that I can do better. As a result, I'm considering something dramatically different.

From now on, I will begin going to the gym three times a week and running two times per week. Additionally, I will only approach women who are HB8's and above. It is the same game and the same sex, the only difference is your girl ends up being higher value, so why settle for less? Am I more likely to find personality flaws and b!tchy behavior in these women? Absolutely. However, I am also more likely to find a very attractive woman who is also super cool on the inside.

I invite you to join this effort and see where it takes your own game. In the interim, it would great to discuss the pros and cons of this mindset. :trouble:

I somewhat disagree with this. What if that HB7 that you approach is going to be your future wife? What if you see a HB7 sitting at the bus stop reading your favourite book? What if you get to class early and the only other person their is a HB6? Are you going to miss out on the chance of making a new friend and possible lover because of her appearance. I'm not saying if I see a HB7 on the street and a HB10 on the street 100 % of the time I will want to go talk to the HB10. However I feel like having a rule like that can really limit some people.

 

[Masculinity]

I somewhat disagree with this. What if that HB7 that you approach is going to be your future wife? What if you see a HB7 sitting at the bus stop reading your favourite book? What if you get to class early and the only other person their is a HB6? Are you going to miss out on the chance of making a new friend and possible lover because of her appearance. I'm not saying if I see a HB7 on the street and a HB10 on the street 100 % of the time I will want to go talk to the HB10. However I feel like having a rule like that can really limit some people.

Good point. As always, there are exception to the rules. My recommendation is based strictly on good looks, which are known to be the enemy of great personalities (as one goes up the other one goes down). I will talk to anyone, including obese people--that's not the point. What I am saying is that no one will push you to higher ground unless you do it yourself. The people who make things happen are those who believe they can create change and sustain all the negativity, rejection, and failure that comes with it.