"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Holding a woman's things hostage!!

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Originally posted by mango
So out of the clear blue, and it has been about 6 months now, my stuff shows up in the mail. Mind you I had already decided to let it go, and get another, and forget asking about it. What's that all about? Advice please.
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Its a whole new ball game. The hostage tactic didn't work for this guy because you didn't pay attention to him. Now he decided to release the hostages (your stuff) but he wants something from you. Maybe he wants you to remember him and give him a ring thanking him and thus he would be able to sneak back into your life "as a friend"???? Its never really over if they are able to come back.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Its never really over if they are able to come back.


WTF, you guys need to get your stories straight. All the DJs here tell guys thast if a girl breaks up with them, its over and they will never be able to have it back. Now your telling the girls that if they break up with them, even if theres minimal contact things will "never be over".

I don't buy it.
 
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that's why I have never agreed with the guys on this board. I am a girl and I don't want it to be over. But because I know how the guy will react, I am able to anticpate his moves and know how to react.

Now you know what this creates...a bunch of countermoves which defeats the whole purpose of trying to be together because everyone is trying not to get their feelings hurt, and to make sure that they are the ones that come out on top. It really sucks I tell you!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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