Hold or attack?

[ThunderMaverick]

Aren't you suppose to be watching Karate Kid?

What's this sh*t you keep going on about "no morals"?

I want her because I CHOOSE to want her. Because I haven't gotten to the point where I spend every single second thinking about her and committing suicide over her. I want her because I've been involved with more women in a YEAR of breaking up with her than I have BEFORE being with her. Because I'm busy with other women at the moment. Because I have good friends and I'm involved in making my career. Because we have good conversation and we make each other laugh. Because we're still hot for each other. Because we're learning from our mistakes. Because we're becoming better people.

Why do you CHOOSE to watch the Karate F*CKING kid?! Because it's entertaining.

Along those same lines. Pretty much.

 

[iqqi]

Because I haven't gotten to the point where I spend every single second thinking about her and committing suicide over her.

Is this your goal, Daniel Son?

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Never will be. No. Hows the movie?

 

[iqqi]

Never will be. No. Hows the movie?

Mr Miyagi just mentioned chinese food. DAMMIT NOW I WANT SOME.

IS it because I am woman, and he triggered my emotional inner child id? Or is it because I want what I can't have??

WHY aren't chinese places open past midnite?

edit: Now they are playing Earth Angel by I think NEW EDITION!!! WHAAAT! I didn't know this movie was THAT cool.

 

[ketostix]

YOU are whipped and enslaved by a chick with no morals. WHY do you want HER? Why do you choose her? Sex? That will be what enslaves you in your misery.

This is a great example of how you men are also creatures of emotional insanity and irrationality. ALL a woman has to do is TRIGGER a man's emotions and he is CAPTURED.

What morals do you have? And your last paragraph goes to the point Str8up made in men being atracted linearly and having integrity in regard to who they're attracted to. You still don't get it.

 

[iqqi]

What morals do you have? And your last paragraph goes to the point Str8up made in men being atracted linearly and having integrity in regard to who they're attracted to. You still don't get it.

YOU MAKE NO SENSE.

Wipe on... wipe off.

 

[MacAvoy]

I like how the thread started all innocent about some random chick, then after he only gets validation from the female posters, TM goes into a hissy fit, and tells its really his ex.

Here are some things you've said about this women in the past:

Believe me I want her eradicated from my heart and soul and I've been doing almost everything to do it. Hobbies, other women. .......


My pride is hurt.....


I just need to keep busy and focused on my goals.

I could use some words of encouragement.

I think I'll just pour gasoline over my head.


...Got a light, anyone?

Well if anyone doesn't want to see me get burned stay out of my topic. It's ok to say I told you so though. Hahahaha. I don't care at this point right now.

I'm in for a nice lesson.

Looks like we lost another one to AFC'ville boys. Let us know when you get back Thunder

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I like how the thread started all innocent about some random chick, then after he only gets validation from the female posters, TM goes into a hissy fit, and tells its really his ex.


Looks like we lost another one to AFC'ville boys. Let us know when you get back Thunder

Hissy fit? I'm glad you chose your words ever so carefully after reading the topic. It fits. Not.

No dude, I actually wanted to get bias views while withholding information. I just wanted different view points before and after the facts. I wish more people would have replied before I spilled the rest of the info, but oh well.


When I said "I don't care at this point" I really don't. I know what she's capable of and I won't be surprised if she does a 180. She's done it before. She's growing and so am I.

 

[jophil28]

I've met a few guys that I like a LOT. None of them know how much I truly like them, as I do things to keep them from trying. Such as complete avoidance, lol. I have them on a back burner in my mind. I myspace stalk one of them.

.

Iccy wrote - " .. I do things to keep them from trying " Geez, no wonder women have relationship problems - this is a high school tactic. Perhaps middle school.

Women do not "work on themselves" .They say that they do, but that is just smoke and mirrors . Women wait and hope and fantasize.( Iccy said so above .." I have them on a back burner IN MY MIND.." )
Women AVOID as their primary strategy, and then they passively wait until circumstances assemble to their liking again.

You will hear these statements over and over ,
" I am taking a break form relationships right now." or -
" I need some time to find ME again " or the classic-
" There are no good men out there,,"

Women are hopeless at dissecting their previous disaster and extracting the wisdom, instead they prefer to just passively wait for Mr Right . They seem to believe that their previous shambles of an LTR was purely because they were involved with Mr Wrong. It is NEVER acceptable to them to believe that THEY may be Ms Wrong ,and therefore they perceive no reason to implement real change or seek personal growth.

And so it goes around and around...

 

[drmeathead]

thunder my man,

you are thinking way too much here. do what you want when yuo want. if you want to talk to you ex...do it. you admit you know she is poison for you. if you need to feel good that bad then do it. if you want to see another girl, then do it. personally i think seeing all of them is good for you right now as you arent really over her and committing to no one is a good idea for you right now

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Thanks Drmeathead. I think you've understood most of all on this topic. Yes strong feelings are still there but I've let go of the attachment. It wouldn't kill me if I never saw her again after this point. We got into the topic of relationships and I admitted to her that I had delusions about of being together for the rest of our lives. I told her "if you're holding my hand when I'm old and gray, about to pass on to the next plane of existence, THEN it was meant to be. As for now I'm not promising anything." she said she understood.

She's also scared of trust issues she's told me. She thinks if we did get back together that she would be worried about having my total trust. There's so many facets to it it's hard to explain. She's a fun accessory to my life whenever she's around. What can I say?

 

[drmeathead]

glad i can help...this girl you are telling her about old and gray and forever yet have let go of attachment. idk man. perhaps no contact with her is best. esp when i read about her saying she thinks she wont have your total trust. dude that is just setting yourself up for her to justify her doing something with some other dude with "might as well be bad, i get no credit for being good because he doesnt trust me anyway". whether that is her saying or her gf putting it in her ear....not a good thing

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Now I didn't say to her that I wouldn't trust her. I never said that would be a problem for me. I did however tell her that if I did accept her back that would by my responsibility. I wouldn't hold anything from the past against her ( I forgave her months after we stopped speaking the first time. She just didn't know it.) I would have to accept responsibility for what I get myself into and so would she. I know everyone here will say it's counter productive to give it another shot. That's fine. I think it's also counter productive to try to work things out while holding someone's past mistakes over their head. I think that's also why a lot of second go-arounds don't work out.

I wouldn't be holding anything against her. I know it's hard to believe but I'm not angry at her in the least for what she did anymore. She hurt herself much more than she hurt me. That's another reason she's trying to not make the same mistakes over again. :crazy:

 

[logic1]

I mention all the time that right now I avoid all kinds of commitment, due to needing some "me" time to learn from a previous break up. Its almost been a year, too. Still "me"-timing!

A year, This is mind boggling. How long do you think it will take for you to want a committed relationship?

I think you have been damaged and need some counseling. I'm serious.

 

[iqqi]

A year, This is mind boggling. How long do you think it will take for you to want a committed relationship?

I think you have been damaged and need some counseling. I'm serious.

I don't think a year is that long, its not like I shun men or anything. I just don't want to commit to anyone. I take commitment seriously, unlike some.

I'm having fun right now, meeting new peeps, enjoying life.

Why do people feel the need to have to complete themselves thru someone else??

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I'm having fun right now, meeting new peeps, enjoying life.

You can't do that in a relationship? You have co dependency problems also I see. I think you do need counseling.

 

[iqqi]

You can't do that in a relationship? You have co dependency problems also I see. I think you do need counseling.

YA... you can. You can also do it alone, and I am enjoying that...

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Ok!

 

[ketostix]

YA... you can. You can also do it alone, and I am enjoying that...

So is being an AW here also part of your enjoyment being single?

 

[iqqi]

So is being an AW here also part of your enjoyment being single?

Yes.