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[vitor]

I have been dating alot lately and meeting alot of chicks. This one that I really want is either playing me like a fiddle, lying to me, or just not interested.

Took her out on a Saturday dinner and drinks, kino, great conversation, lots of laughing, ask me to hang out again,

She is another single mom, seems like I keep running into them. Im 27 she is 28.

Anyways On monday I give her a call. this is two days after our date. She doesnt pick up, I leave a nice voice mail, hey 'Her Name' its nick just calling to say hello give me a call.

Tueday Nothing, Wenday Nothing, she used to call me at 10 o clock or so, so I text her at 10 Hey 'Her Name' are you Ok?

No reply again

Now im thinking the following

1. Did I come on too strong calling her two days after our date and the text message.
2. Its just kind of rude not to call someone back espically return a text message.
3. She is dating multiple dudes and will call me when she wants
4. She "Just isnt that into me"
5. She is following some Womans dating book where she doesnt call back for a bit, and increases my attraction for her.

She is a teacher and told me how all day she just plays with her kids, goes to the gym and hangs outs.

Im writing her off at this point, but had such a good time with her and she was smoking hot. I dont want to sound concededied but I dont normally get dissed or no return calls.

Any idea's,

 

[Vulpine]

Im writing her off at this point,

Your idea is the best.

I'd only add: don't give her a second thought.

Who cares what her deal is, she doesn't want to be with you. All done. That was easy. Moving on...

 

[Bonhomme]

1. Did I come on too strong calling her two days after our date and the text message.
No

2. Its just kind of rude not to call someone back espically return a text message.
Yes

3. She is dating multiple dudes and will call me when she wants
Perhaps, but not likely. Much more likely one other dude.

4. She "Just isnt that into me"
Another possibility

5. She is following some Womans dating book where she doesnt call back for a bit, and increases my attraction for her.
Also possible. Move on, and give her the gift of missing you. If she's enough into you (or an other guy she's more into drops out of the picture), she'll call back.

 

[Metro3pilot]

I think moving on, at this point is your only choice ....

though sometimes my friend, it's not always about you ...

she could be sick, she could have lost her phone, she might have a pre paid phone that's out of minutes, oh yeah and she's a single mom so you can be sure that she has a fair share of issues that might have come up with her child ......

Rock on

:rockon:

 

[jophil28]

Who knows WHAT women are thinking when they pull this shyte. If she is interested SHE will contact you.
Sounds like another "game playing,mind-f**king headcase" to me. Sometimes ya just get them in this line of work.
Move on and ONLY give her another chance IF she has an explanation that you can take to the bank -she also owes you an apology for her rude behavior. Do not give her anymore of your time unless and UNTIL she works hard for it.
If she is working at "playing hard to get", DUMP HER HARD- that shyte is the most self defeating crap . Beats me how women think it is smarty pants behavior in a man shortage.

 

[st_99]

4. She "Just isnt that into me"

I like to just bottom line situations like this.

 

[Fantasy]

Probably one of the best pieces of advice I was giving by my father is when I wasn't getting calls from this chick I was into when I was 19. After keeping in my disappointment of it all, I finally told my father about it because I wanted to finally be able to tell someone how bad I was feeling about it. This was a deep moment because I never really asked my father's advice on women before. He told me with great conviction before I could even ask the question "why"

Don't Even Think About It anymore. Just Move On. You will never know "why."

Don't even try to figure it out. Just sit and try to imagine the possibilities and you will know that it can drive you crazy and that they can be numerous reasons.
You will be best served by not even trying to impossibly figure out "why." Just move on. Everyone's doing it.

 

[Interceptor]

We can't beat ourselves up trying to find out "Why?"
It just happened. Deal with it, and move on.
Keeping this wondering going on makes up bad vibes, they can harm you emotionally and psychologicaly. We don't want to do that.

 

[violator]

We can't beat ourselves up trying to find out "Why?"
It just happened. Deal with it, and move on.
Keeping this wondering going on makes up bad vibes, they can harm you emotionally and psychologicaly. We don't want to do that.

Agreed. Asking why is something I learned no to do any more after dealiing with a slew of flakey women.

 

[Latinoman]

I agree with Bonhomme answer to the questions.

Jophil said that if she is playing hard to get...dump her hard. I agree with this too. And I will add more of why. Now, I understand she being safe by making sure you are not some kind of loser. But let's assume you are cool and a great man. Well, When a woman plays hard to get under those circunstances...she is literally using her sexuality to manipulate you. What would happen if you end up in a LTR or married? The likelihood of she using sex (eg - lack of) as the carrot in from of the stick to manipulate you are greater.

 

[vitor]

I am making no more attempts at this girl, she was hot and alot of fun, but I keep rationalizing that she does have a kid, lives more than 30 mins away , and so far is nothing but trouble for me. Im just so used to girls being all about me when they are not im kinda taken back. That is by no means to sound conceded but im tall, handsome, have a nice six pack, own my house and own 2 small business's. My convo game is on, oh well

Thanks for the help guys