"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJinTraining06

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i experimented a bit with this new girl i been talkin to off of match.com. I decided She told me in our first phone convo that she hates dating cuz it's like u have to one-up the other. She said she feels if she lieks someone why cant she just call them? Ok so i figured this was typical female bs again, and that she would be just as turned off by a guy callin her the next day as any other girl.

Well. this girl texted me after out convo, texted me again at 9 am the next morning to say - "have a great day". She called me at noon and left me a voicemail also. So i decided to experiement with this girl and call her at 6 pm when i got home from work to see how she'd respond to that. Well, she was all excited to talk to me. She texted me today again to ask how i was doin.
So i decided to keep the experiment goin and did the most AFC thing i could think of. I said via text message - "hey r u free tonite, we should grab coffee or something"

She texted me back sure sounds good, im free.

So is this girl insane, or is this just proof that all girls r diff and u should do watever u want, and if the girl doenst like it, then she prob just isnt that into u.

i have a feelin she is insane tho, she's 5'10'', enormous rack, beautiful face, blue eyes. The only negative i could see is that shes big boned. She's def a large frame, and she has meat on her bones. But its not chubby if u know wat i mean, its more a result of bone structure, but i think she's gorgeous from the pics. Great face. its funny i'm 5'6'' and 155 lbs. lol Wed look ridiculous together. Dont bother me tho. She told me she's above that stuff. She was like niki hilton is 5'11'' with a 5'5'' guy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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some guys here would have you believe that there was no sex before this site... Sounds like she likes you. Go out on the date, play it cool and just have fun! Its important to remember that you have free rein if a girls really into you. This girl I banged last week blew off going to an important soccer match her roommate had just to go out with me.
 

DJinTraining06

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vorbis said:
some guys here would have you believe that there was no sex before this site... Sounds like she likes you. Go out on the date, play it cool and just have fun! Its important to remember that you have free rein if a girls really into you. This girl I banged last week blew off going to an important soccer match her roommate had just to go out with me.

haha niceeee. They will blow off their grandma for a guy. But yea thats funny, no sex before this site. it's true people take this stuff too seriosuly, myself included.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
...She texted me today again to ask how i was doin.
So i decided to keep the experiment goin and did the most AFC thing i could think of. I said via text message - "hey r u free tonite, we should grab coffee or something"

She texted me back sure sounds good, im free. ...
WTF???!! Why was that AFC? So you didn't wait three days or whatever the official number is nowadays, why would you???!!! SHE'S VERY INTERESTED IN YOU!!! This is what I told you should have done with the chick on the train. Think about it, what if she said that she wanted to come to your house and fvck you until your eyes rolled to the back of your head, TWICE!! Would you have said "Oh no, we can't do that, it hasn't been three days..." :rolleyes:

Guys need to stop focusing so much on the rules because they miss out on obvious signs to make a move. I will say that you did very well with quickly moving from email messages to an actual date. That's another major qualifier to determine whether she's interested or not. :up:
 
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