"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hmmmmm

Will900

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I'm dating this girl and been with her for about 2 weeks. She is perfect just one problem. She winds me up a lot! What does it mean when women wind men up about things? For example she says to me right I'm going out tonight, then i say oh nice who with? She says my other boyfriend??? I'm like what!! Then after about 5 minutes of joking about she says oi I'm only kidding, then starts laughing.

When she says things like that it really hurts and makes me feel like theirs another man involved?

Any ideas?
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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playerone

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Lol. She's a DJ. You gotta play the indifferent game. Act like you're not affected by what she said at all, although apparently you are. Make fun of what she says about being with the other guy.

"Oh, is he gay?"

Haha. Be in control.
 

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yah i agree with ItsTheAttitude. you gotta be indifferent. say something like, oh sweet, you bringin hiim back for a threesome after? just act like you don't give a ****. and the secret is to not give a ****.
 

JJMcLure

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She is testing your reaction to try to gauge how into her you are.

You can't show it affects you or she will know she can pull your strings (has power over you). If she says that you can just say cool, you have plans with one of your other chicks.
 

oakraiderz2

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Umm...if my girlfriend joked about having another bf i wouldnt just let that sh*t slide. I wouldnt get bent out of shape and id probably play along, but at the same time i would keep my eyes open. I would tell my girlfriend i have another girl as a joke. There ARE other ways to joke about stuff and guage intrest. Also, if you know she does stuff like that, stop being a fool and falling for it everytime.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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theunflushables

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It sounds like she has a sense of humor. Play a long, tell her its good she's going out with her other boyfriend because it gives you a chance to invite your other girlfriend over. Don't be so serious about it man. She's just teasing you.
 
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