"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TheNewGuy

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So I've come to realize that I'm pretty happy with my life. I'm not in the best physical condition (tad underweight) and I don't get any play... but I'm still happy.

I do a lot of things that take up my time, have a nice job, will be able to buy a nice car soon enough (when I turn 16) and I'm getting good grades. I've got good friends to back it all up as well.

But like I said, I still want some ass. I don't really want a girlfriend. Right now in superficial high school, being underweight (5'7", 115lbs) makes it a little bit more difficult than the average joe. I'm joining the gym when I turn 16 (damn age limits) so that means I have to wait a while before my weight goes up.

So my life is going pretty good, but I don't get any play. I incorporate all the DJ tactics (C&F, kino, etc.) and I definetly am having more interactions with girls now, but nothing past that. What am I doing wrong?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ace of Flames

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i just think you havent given it enough time. let the different aspects of dj-dom settle into your personality, and make them your own. only then will you get true results.

just have patience, like you have waiting for the gym. the time will come.
 

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If you're focusing on physical aspects and/or your lack thereof, you have bigger issues to take care of. A truly attractive man is satisfied and, in fact, proud of his physical shape regardless. Sure it will score you one or two more points on the pretty-boy scale, but in a girl's eyes, it doesn't matter at all. The real handsome guys, if you notice, are only good-looking because they have wonderfully outgoing personalities. Work on your inner confidence levels and try to focus more on basic attraction theory than routines like C+F and kino. You are using the backwards approach and it's dinging your self-esteem. Get your inner game in line, and the rest, routines and techniques, will simply fall in after that. I've written some decent inner game articles in the link below. Check them out, you might learn something.

-Damian
 

TheNewGuy

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Originally posted by Damian
If you're focusing on physical aspects and/or your lack thereof, you have bigger issues to take care of. A truly attractive man is satisfied and, in fact, proud of his physical shape regardless. Sure it will score you one or two more points on the pretty-boy scale, but in a girl's eyes, it doesn't matter at all. The real handsome guys, if you notice, are only good-looking because they have wonderfully outgoing personalities. Work on your inner confidence levels and try to focus more on basic attraction theory than routines like C+F and kino. You are using the backwards approach and it's dinging your self-esteem. Get your inner game in line, and the rest, routines and techniques, will simply fall in after that. I've written some decent inner game articles in the link below. Check them out, you might learn something.

-Damian
I never said that I'm a skinny loser that can't get laid because of his skinnyness (thats what I used to say)

I was just saying that I'm skinny. It's a fact. I'm not gonna say that I'm some macho body builder, because i'm not. I'm fine with who I am.
 

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I now really believe that being strong, intelligent, and talented isn't the answer to getting girls. If that was the answer, there'd be a massive swarm of female ants climbing over me by now. But sadly, I had never been successful with girls. I mean- never. and I'm a little frustrated. :( (I have a sexy body too)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by Ace of Flames
let the different aspects of dj-dom settle into your personality, and make them your own. only then will you get true results.
Exactly. Read the bible and all the good DJ lit, and then apply it manually.

After like a month, it'll start very quickly to be automatic--part of you.

It's great.
 
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