"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Osiris7250

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after staying inactive to the site for 4-5 months i came back and broke through my AFC exterior and decided to read the bible (for the other AFC's, thats where it all starts). now im DJn this chic, HB 8 and really down to earth girl. ive been as mysterious with her as i possibly can; last friday i hung out with her at a football game, we ended up gettin drunk an goin back to her place. even though i coulda got some with her sober i decided not to cause i dont agree with making moves when a chic is under the influence. the next day she wanted to hang out at a party but it rained out, she wanted to hang out but " i was busy;) ." the past couple days i pretty muched ignored her execept when she came up to hug me and a little kino responses when she saw me in class.

Now my question is do i continue to ignore her and let her come up and talk to me, or do i ease a little bit of convo in on my own? I want to remain in controll, yet not let her think i have no intrest in her. I would like for this to procede into the future and see where it takes me, but if it fails i still have 4 other back-ups.

any help would be great.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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CapiCrimini

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ended up gettin drunk
after reading into that. I decided you really have your values wrong. As to your question, where was it? I would recomend reading on Ganji games or whatever it's called, but everyone always screws it up. So I would recomend doing as you wish because...


but if it fails i still have 4 other back-ups.
if the above is true you really don't need our help on this simple question.
 

Osiris7250

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thanks you answered everything BUT my question.....

and yea i drink OCCASIONALLY, that dont mean i set goals an **** as far as my life and education go.......
 

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Well Osiris, after seeing your reply to my post, i decided to fire my thoughts about your issue. Personally i think you should wonder what you want from the girl. Do you want her to be your girlfriend, or do you just want to have some fun :)

If the first, i think ignoring her (when you feel your status is right) is OK. But you know you have to make your move one day or another...so what is it that you are waiting for? Your status to be increased? So that you will be cooler than cool? If so, be carefull that you don't slip, and lose her before you even tried.
(In general girls don't approach men they want. So i assume if its serious you have to and WANT to make to first move anyway)

If she's just for fun to you, why not make a move? You mentioned you already have backup? If so, then it doesn't matter anyway.
 

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i will be makin the move soon. i had a pleasent surpirze this morning when she told me that she her friend on vaca gave her a set of her house keys and after the party her, me, and another couple were to sleep there. my main question was tho, should i talk to her, or let her talk to me...?

thanks for the advice though, i will take it into consideration and begin to think if i want to turn this in to a relationship or for fun.

still open for more advice:)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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