"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hmmm Possible Lay, How Can I Capitalize On This One?

AbsolutBeirut

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So I have been going back and forth with this chick I discovered on Craigslist. The context here is that the weather outside is a blizzard and she is trapped in her apartment. Here's a fragment of the last email I received from her:



I'm starting to like being trapped in...just wish someone was here with me...anyway...I just want you to friend me so I can see more of you and vice versa. I'm starting to think I could like a dinosaur :) Still depends on what kind of dinosaur you are...big scary one, or a harmless omnivore?



At this point I only have her facebook profile but haven't friended her yet, no # yet.

My question here is, considering that the weather is sucky tonight and there is nothing to do, how can I suggest coming over without coming across as too eager? can it be done? something along the lines of bringing along a movie or something.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mr_rogers

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AbsolutBeirut said:


I'm starting to like being trapped in...just wish someone was here with me...anyway...I just want you to friend me so I can see more of you and vice versa. I'm starting to think I could like a dinosaur :) Still depends on what kind of dinosaur you are...big scary one, or a harmless omnivore?



At this point I only have her facebook profile but haven't friended her yet, no # yet.

My question here is, considering that the weather is sucky tonight and there is nothing to do, how can I suggest coming over without coming across as too eager? can it be done? something along the lines of bringing along a movie or something.
Why don't you just say something like, "Well, if you're really that bored I guess we could see a movie,"?
 

everywomanshero

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If she lives alone just tell her you want to come over and watch a movie with her and sit on the same couch or bed as her.

If she lives with rents it's going to be trickier because you're going to (preferably) be there when they are gone.

If you don't see #1 or #2 as viable options, then bring her to your place. If you have a huge couch, throw it in the garage of something. You want to either be on the bed or a love seat with her.

Basically it's like this, in order to fvck her you need to get isolation (OK save for a few women but.....). If you're emailing her, you're not fvcking her, if you're at the movies with her (non-XXX), you're probably not porking her, if you;re out to dinner with her, you're probably not porking her. Brent from DYD advanced series put this very well, "you're getting in your own way" when you "put off the inevitable" by screwing around too long with all this other stuff... unless you're goal is to find a wife or travel companion or something where her personality's every detail is more relevant. Those other things are fine to do, but they are not required, and the more time you spend on them before isolating, the longer you'll be waiting.
 

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An update on the Craigslist girl...

So I did not capitalize on the opportunity and responded ordinarily. Heres how she responds; mind you I can see her whole facebook profile and she can't because mine is put on private. I skip over the details in the message include only the parts that are relevant:



uh oh...you can see my whole facebook profile and you're still talking to me..whew

...

Brr..I need cuddle time


Am I a fool for not having escalated on this? if I was still around for the next week, I would have suggested meeting up. Since I am traveling what is the best way to keep her on the line so I can pick up where I left off when I return? I hope to return after 2009.
 
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