hmm..what do you make of this?

[djinhell]

ok - I will try to fill you in, or you can check my last thread i did. basically im new, im 23, limited girl experience, read the bible, used some of the techniques on this chick from my uni on the train (few days ago). Today, she was in one of my classes, and when we were waiting to go into the class (door locked), I was talkign to a guy, and she sort of came and stood literally right infront of me, like really close and infront of me, yet she didn't say anything at first..and neither did I, I was talking to the guy. Then she started talking to her friend about our lecturer (who was late), and was saying it loud, and looked at me when she was saying it, so I got involved with the conversation briefly, and then went into class.

Whats going on with that, am i reading into it too much? or is there IOI?

the annoying thing is, I didn't initially like the girl, but she looked kinda hot today, but I know I cant focus on her too much, rookie mistake, right? (although I am a rookie lol)

your advice appreciated

dj in hell

 

[Jaggs]

Yes, this is over analyzing. There is analyzing something that has happened and then there is analyzing that doesn't even need to be analyzed. This falls in the latter category.

Just keep it going man, look for more interest. Don't focus ANY girl, just use them as practise. Whatever happens happens. You will learn a lot in a short time.

 

[jdon23]

If she looked at you while she was talking to her friend, she *MAY* be interested in you. Although she was talking to her friend, she is was DIRECTING her attention towards you. What matters more is how did it go once you got involved in the convo? Was she smiling a lot? Did you make her laugh?

Next time, just get it in your head that she already likes you and all you need to do is get off your ass and talk to her.

 

[JJMcLure]

This is overanalysing a rather insignificant event. Take the approach with ALL chicks, that YOU know what YOU want, and pursue it. This avoids "does/doesn't she like me", "should I make a move or not" and second guessing - which helps avoid overanalysing and getting oneitis. A chick's interest level is easily established by asking her on a one-on-one date and attemping a kiss close.

Chicks like a man who knows what he wants and goes after it, it displays confidence. Don't apologise for being a man or feel embarassed for what you want. Chicks enjoy it when they find a guy likes them - it boosts their self esteem. So don't be afraid to make a move and if it happens to turn out once in a while take a rejection (it means nothing).

In fact, if fear or rejection is an issue then I recommend doing the 10 rejections drill (approach any 10 women and ask for their number, hoping to get rejected. It should help show it's not a big deal, and you'll find some will probably in fact give the number).