Hmm **** man... :(

[Levrone]

I know, this may sound pathetic to the real DJ's who can get any girl they want (contrary to me), but last saturday at a party of a friend of mine I met a very goodlooking girl. Just exactly the type I like. I found out that she didn't have a boyfriend and she was kinda interessted in me.

So later on when I was back home, I thought.... of ****, i didn't ask her number or MSN Messenger adress. Soo ****ing stupig aargh... but through certain contacts I got her msn adres after all But there she wasn't really nice, very silent. And today I heard from a friend of hers, that she didnt really have any interest in me.

I know what you guys would say, that I'm pathetic to worry about it, but I just want to write it down. Because i AM really worry about it, because maybe I'm not that good looking after all or something. Don't know...

Life is a *****..

 

[organizedconfusion]

do you often set yourself up in these types of situations?

it would'nt surpise me if this same type of routine happened before many times.

i noticed that the guys that do this to themselves often set up
sub-concious routines in their minds; to go after girls that
either are not their type in the first place or tend to idealize them in general-build them up in the fantasy,obsessess over them etc.
only more deeply to fall for the image and NOT the girl herself in actuality.

STOP IT!! how cares if she's not interested, you're just reinforcing bad habits and wallowing in soo called "rejection" thats not even existing in real life but only in your mind.

you're just setting yourself up for more rejection by playing the
"victim role" and "victim mantality".
like many, I have had may share of heartache and rejection-
but it's still no excuse to wallow in it.

 

[Levrone]

Originally posted by organizedconfusion
do you often set yourself up in these types of situations?

it would'nt surpise me if this same type of routine happened before many times.

i noticed that the guys that do this to themselves often set up
sub-concious routines in their minds; to go after girls that
either are not their type in the first place or tend to idealize them in general-build them up in the fantasy,obsessess over them etc.
only more deeply to fall for the image and NOT the girl herself in actuality.

STOP IT!! how cares if she's not interested, you're just reinforcing bad habits and wallowing in soo called "rejection" thats not even existing in real life but only in your mind.

you're just setting yourself up for more rejection by playing the
"victim role" and "victim mantality".
like many, I have had may share of heartache and rejection-
but it's still no excuse to wallow in it.

You mean, that I just look for the girl's outside, instead of the inside of her? And then try to idealise her?

 

[Gonzalo]

Get out there more, man. You can't go beating yourself because "this one goodlooking girl" wasn't nice to you over msn.

Just WHAT THE FVCK IS UP with all these self-defeating threads?

In Spanishthere is a saying: "The pup who doesn't cry, doesn't get breast-fed."

If you don't go and pursue the things you want (not ask for the number, not approach, etc ad infinitum), then you won't get anything in life.

Stop the whining.

Please.

 

[Levrone]

Originally posted by Gonzalo
Get out there more, man. You can't go beating yourself because "this one goodlooking girl" wasn't nice to you over msn.

Just WHAT THE FVCK IS UP with all these self-defeating threads?

In Spanishthere is a saying: "The pup who doesn't cry, doesn't get breast-fed."

If you don't go and pursue the things you want (not ask for the number, not approach, etc ad infinitum), then you won't get anything in life.

Stop the whining.

Please.

Yeah, but you must know that it's not very good for your ego if you get rejected.

 

[Gonzalo]

Boy, do I know that. You put the ego in the line everytime you approach. What one needs to do is learn not to take it personally.

I think that feeling bad and letting that kinda stuff get to you is ten times worse than the rejection itself.

 

[Levrone]

Originally posted by Gonzalo
Boy, do I know that. You put the ego in the line everytime you approach. What one needs to do is learn not to take it personally.

I think that feeling bad and letting that kinda stuff get to you is ten times worse than the rejection itself.

Not to take it personally? What then? Blame her for not liking me?
Thats ridiculous, because I am the one she don't want, so i DO take it personally

 

[DJDamage]

Originally posted by Levrone
So later on when I was back home, I thought.... of ****, i didn't ask her number or MSN Messenger adress. Soo ****ing stupig aargh... but through certain contacts I got her msn adres after all But there she wasn't really nice, very silent. And today I heard from a friend of hers, that she didnt really have any interest in me

You got her contact information without asking her?? that's not good.

You showed her that you didn't have the balls to approach her and ask her number and instead you got it through other means sort of like what a stalker would do.

Chalk this one as a loss and move on. Next time if someone catches your eye, ask for a number on the spot.

DjDamage

 

[Levrone]

Re: Re: Hmm **** man...

Originally posted by DJDamage
You got her contact information without asking her?? that's not good.

You showed her that you didn't have the balls to approach her and ask her number and instead you got it through other means sort of like what a stalker would do.

Chalk this one as a loss and move on. Next time if someone catches your eye, ask for a number on the spot.

DjDamage

So you mean, there's much more chance she'll like me if I ask her personally then through other ways? Why is that, because of showing my balls? Don't know if that's what girls are looking for, because if they don't like you in the first place, they won't like you either with balls..

 

[Q-Pid]

"You never have a second chance to make a first impression."

**** ups, rejections, etc happen all the time. Don't worry about it.

 

[DJDamage]

Re: Re: Re: Hmm **** man...

Originally posted by Levrone
So you mean, there's much more chance she'll like me if I ask her personally then through other ways? Why is that, because of showing my balls?

Yes and No. If you would have asked her personally you would know pretty well if she was into you or not. If she gave you good positive vibes and she was willing to give you her number, then you know that there is a very good chance for a date. If you got a bad vibe or she refused to give you her number then you would know right off the bat she wasn't interested in you and you wouldn't be wasting time on her.

Women like guys who are not afraid of showing them their sexual side. By showing risk (the possibly of getting rejected) they will respect you more as oppose of avoiding risk and do it by other means. They want to date a warrior not a clown.