"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hitting The Gym Today - Gonna Approach

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I'm going to try to meet hbs at the gym today and give a full field report of my approachs. That is the most socially acceptable place to meet hbs yes?

I never approach anyone though usually when im there. One time I had like 320 pounds on the bench and I decide it's a good idea to ask the 5'4" thin HB to spot me. And she says ok (hesistantly because she didn't think she was strong enough to spot me), after she is done spotting me she just leaves, I don't ask for the number.

I'm out of ideas.

Please give me some suggestions and I will try them today and post back my field report.

Tell me what to do and I will do it.

Theres lots of fit attractive HB8+s at the gym.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this where I'm supposed to be like "NO, GPSHIELDS, DONT TO IT!!!" and it becomes some 10-page trolling thread??

Good luck with that.
 

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You can approach a woman damn near anywhere. Not just the gym. I don't approach women at the gyms here in Atlanta.

AFAIC, just make a move. Just do it like Nike!

Case dismissed.
 

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Broham, don't go inviting little 100 pound chicks to help you spot heavy weight. Not only could you get hurt, but they will assume you are trying to show off. It's hard to meet at the gym. Most people are there following a workout routine. They go in, get their work done, and get out. Aside from meatheads, not many people actually ENJOY working out. People do it to stay in shape. I enjoy a good hard work out just like a lot of people on here probably do, but if there were some magic pill that would reduce body fat and build muscle you better believe I wouldn't be in the gym the same amount of time I already am. I could spend that time on more important things.

I have met two girls in the gym. One was next to me on the treadmill. I dropped my ipod while I was running. She was walking and got off and gave it back to me. This wasn't intentional, just dumb luck. I always try and get next to the hottest women on the treadmill just in case something like that happens.

The second one was getting water. This is probably the best place to try and pick them up. They are usually alone, in between sets (1-2 minutes), and away from the crowd. I just chatted the chick up about wearing jewelry while working out, calling it a safety hazzard. Something stupid like that (it was just the first thing I could think of). You may also want to think about joining yoga classes or something that your gym has. This is probably the best way to go about things (although I've never done it). I've heard great things about that.

I would generally stay away from sarging at the gym though, just me.
 

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Dont put so much pressure on yourself, you'll probably just come off awkward. just have a fun, light-hearted demeanor. I notice that when I have a good workout going I feel a big confidence boost. Take advantage of it and have fun
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I agree with ss666, I wouldn't ask a chick to spot me on ANYthing, especially a bench press with anything over 200 lbs. Uess shes the only other person in the gym with me, in which case I'd probably just choose to go lighter weight or use dumb bells. 1) you can get hurt, 2) I don't trust a woman to kno how to spot properly, hurting my workout, 3) it could come off as a lame way of showing off if she was at all aware that you were gaming her
 

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incognito42 said:
I agree with ss666, I wouldn't ask a chick to spot me on ANYthing, especially a bench press with anything over 200 lbs. Uess shes the only other person in the gym with me, in which case I'd probably just choose to go lighter weight or use dumb bells. 1) you can get hurt, 2) I don't trust a woman to kno how to spot properly, hurting my workout, 3) it could come off as a lame way of showing off if she was at all aware that you were gaming her

Do you have any openers for gym?

I will say verbatim what you tell me to.

Thanks.
 

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i dont even think of hitting on chicks at the gym, your supose to work out, do it outside the gym. but thats just me..
 

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I just couldn't interrupt what a girl is doing just to talk to her. It would have to be a lucky moment of walking out together or going to the water fountain together
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mantis Toboggan said:
You guys on here keep feeding these trolls like it's Thanksgiving dinner.
If you don't like my thread don;t post in it.

How is this a troll thread?

I asked what are some openers for the gym and strategy.
 

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i dont even think of hitting on chicks at the gym, your supose to work out, do it outside the gym. but thats just me..
i think of it all the time. them there with their thick legs and fat rear ends in leggings and a tight sports bra with sweat glistening off them. S#hit why not? You can say that about any location.
 

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gspshields2 said:
I'm going to try to meet hbs at the gym today and give a full field report of my approachs. That is the most socially acceptable place to meet hbs yes?

I never approach anyone though usually when im there. One time I had like 320 pounds on the bench and I decide it's a good idea to ask the 5'4" thin HB to spot me. And she says ok (hesistantly because she didn't think she was strong enough to spot me), after she is done spotting me she just leaves, I don't ask for the number.

I'm out of ideas.

Please give me some suggestions and I will try them today and post back my field report.

Tell me what to do and I will do it.

Theres lots of fit attractive HB8+s at the gym.
Based off your posts on So Suave your approaches/ creeper status would be a marvel to behold.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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gspshields2 said:
Do you have any openers for gym?

I will say verbatim what you tell me to.

Thanks.
I'm not a dj and I don't want to give you bad advice. I'd just say pick your spots and don't be intrusive when a chick is zoned into her workOut. Have an upbeat, light-hearted and friendly attitude. Maybe try an opener based on something going on around you. I mean you are in the gym with lots of shyt goin on. Maybe you comment on a machine you see them on, and ask how they like using it because you used to use it but didn't like it too much. Or every once in a while if I see a chick really working out hard ill say "youre really getting after it, like a champ!" I love seeing fat people and women working out hard, it gives me motivation

I usually like keepin to myself and not being bothered in there. I get in my zone, criddle out a little bit and check out the hotties, and get out.
 

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I'm not a dj and I don't want to give you bad advice. I'd just say pick your spots and don't be intrusive when a chick is zoned into her workOut. Have an upbeat, light-hearted and friendly attitude. Maybe try an opener based on something going on around you. I mean you are in the gym with lots of shyt goin on. Maybe you comment on a machine you see them on, and ask how they like using it because you used to use it but didn't like it too much. Or every once in a while if I see a chick really working out hard ill say "youre really getting after it, like a champ!" I love seeing fat people and women working out hard, it gives me motivation

I usually like keepin to myself and not being bothered in there. I get in my zone, criddle out a little bit and check out the hotties, and get out.

Saying you're not a DJ is a good thing. Reading posts from some of these self proclaimed "DJs" on SS show them to be the basket cases they are.
 

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I dont find the gym as generally a good environment to approach. If you aren't into your workout and there for another reason its usually pretty transparent, and you risk attaining a "creeper" status. I only recommend approaching if a woman there is giving you a pretty clear sign of interest - otherwise go to the gym just to work out.
 

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I went to the gym and it was pretty packed.
I went up to random HBs and started saying, so do you come here often?
Most of them, looked at me and just walked away like I was weird or something.

One HB8 talked to me for a little bit, she says no shes busy with work, and she usually doesn't due free weights, shes more into the yoga. I asked her how much it was for the yoga lessons. She said $150 for 9 weeks. I said wow, thats cool, give me your number and we will talk more. I cut to the chase right away instead of wasting time. She said sorry I have a boyfriend. I said cool and walked away.

I approached a blonde chick HB5 and I asked you "do you think its appriopriate for guys to approach girls at the gym", she said "whats means that". She didn't understand what I was saying and had a thick accent, so I quickly changed the subject to "Where are from".

She said she was from Poland and that she hated the gym because they forced her to sign up for a longer membership and when she asked to cancel her membership they refused. I asked her if it was OK for someone like me to go to Poland, cause I want to watch Eurocup would I get stabbed. She said Yes, dont go there.

I asked her which team she is cheering for and she said Germany. I said, I am cheering for Germany too because I don't like my Italian friends. She thought my poor attempt at humor is funny.

I asked her for number and whether she would like to go out on Friday to a music festival. She agreed and gave me her number. We hugged and said goodbye.
 

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I ll give you my way in approaching women in gym , but in return I want the results from you
first go sit next machine that the woman sit and pretend you dont event noticed she is sitting beside you , and dont go to treatmill or other standing machine
2- after she spend more than 2 mins come directly to her and say in serious accent , how many sets you have remaining here ?
if she respond with friendly gesture move to the next topic and continue talking or else say ok and dont event smile .
the good thing in this approach you are disarming the woman from rejection weapon , she cant reject you and she must reply to you , so you are forcing her to talk with you without possibility of rejecting you .
women who practicing in body building section usually they are there for men , and they welcome the approach even if they pretend they are so busy with their machine .
any woman set the weight to minimum she is most likely there for men

 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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