Hitting The Eject Button Too Quick

[jaymbrs]

I'm a believer that a person changes sometimes for reasons unbeknownst to him. In my teens and early twenties I used to pursue and pursue and pursue women until I got what I wanted or I was able to move on to someone else. It was anything from texting and calling multiple times to repeatedly asking to go on a date (even when they didn't counter) and looking back I want to say a lot of the times it worked out. However now in my early thirties I've become the complete opposite. As soon as a woman gives a hint that she's going to give **** tests or play games or maybe even be unsure if she's attracted to me, I'll just let her go without even trying to pursue or persuade. I assume I value my time more now than I used to. However my other guy friends have not changed like I have. The reason I'm posting this is because recently a guy friend accused me of being too picky and too impatient. I laughed in my head because I wasn't like this at all back then.

My close female friend has told me multiple times that persistence pays off with women. Maybe it does but I guess is it worth it?

Anyone experience something similar to this?

 

[wifehunter]

Most of time, chicks will steer you off a cliff. So, Ignor your dumb friend. Instead, be 'persistent' in your business.

 

[jaymbrs]

Most of time, chicks will steer you off a cliff. So, Ignor your dumb friend. Instead, be 'persistent' in your business.

Yea I agree. I've been single with an occasional fling for the past 2 years and this is the most focused I've ever been with work. Definitely improving my status.

 

[EyeBRollin]

@guru1000 's advice about taking into account timing is pretty good. They say no you just sort of go about your business and then maybe hit them up later but you don't burn the bridge

I agree with this. As long as frame is maintained, don't burn the bridge. You can disappear for months, sometimes even years at a time.

 

[Tilex]

I agree with this. As long as frame is maintained, don't burn the bridge. You can disappear for months, sometimes even years at a time.

Years? Months? Really?
There's an old saying Out of sight, Out of mind
If I haven't talked to a chick or a plate for more than 2 weeks, I'm dropping her from my contact list.
There's no reason to remember someone unimportant in your life.
I call this excess baggage.

 

[jaymbrs]

@guru1000 's advice about taking into account timing is pretty good. They say no you just sort of go about your business and then maybe hit them up later but you don't burn the bridge

I don't disagree but not many like to stick around. Before I know it, they're in a relationship or traveling the world with some dude at which point I'll cut ties. It's almost pointless.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Never get advice about women from women. 99% of women don't know what they actually want. I don't mean that as a diss on women..... But ask them and 99% will tell you they want a nice guy who buys them flowers, yet they friend zone that guy and f*ck the bad boy every time.

If you pursue, it shows you have no other options and you see her as above your own value. This makes her disinterested. You should pursue, as it's a masculine role, but ONLY if she demonstrates that she is interested through her actions. The second she shows disinterest, you back off. If she comes back around, you may choose to continue pursuing or just bail. If you continue pursuing after she comes back around, you should be willing to do less to see her than you were before. IE don't offer to take her out. She has to come to you.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Years? Months? Really?
There's an old saying Out of sight, Out of mind
If I haven't talked to a chick or a plate for more than 2 weeks, I'm dropping her from my contact list.
There's no reason to remember someone unimportant in your life.
I call this excess baggage.

Yup. I have eternal patience. I recently ****ed an ex from 3 years ago. No pursuit on my end. She hit me up, came over, rode the ****. Then we both went ghost again. These kind of arrangements work for me. The more the merrier.

 

[Von]

Patience about what?

That she changes her ways or that she "suddenly" like you? Or MonkeyBranch? Or just get légal age to date you? Your the knight waiting for the princess to look at you?

Timing is everything.

You pick a number up, invite her, she says no than you dissapear 5 months, reinvite and bang her The Sam night. I've done it, but did i wait? Nope.. In the meantime i had dates and ons.

What do orbitiers or AFC do ? They wait..they wait...they wait...and hope!

In the mean time the girl is living life!

So never "wait" , do your business, ask the date, move on... Reinitiate only when you have a "open space in your schedule" ....

Girls fall in love when they dont see you (the emotions of the void of your current absence). If you wait aka orbit, she'll see you are needy/desperate/have nothing going on for you, and they'll never miss you

Girls date up, it means you need something going on for you.

Dissapear, have a life, reinitiate when time is right for you!

This way, you have timing, and more chance of getting the date than "the wait"

Girls love mysterious guys. Be one with timing

 

[Roober]

In my experience, a highly interested woman does not need persistence.

Pushing for men to be persistent is what puts women in very difficult situations with men who will not take no for an answer. How often do you see stories about murder, rape, stalking, and wonder, why didnt he just stop?

Its because stupid people spread stupid ideas like "be persistent." If all men learned about IOI and kino escalation, these issues would disappear.