Hitting the brakes?

[MoreThanSmooth]

After depleting my last selection of plates I started spinning again this weekend. I'm talking to two girls at the moment, one of whom seems super keen (almost a bit too keen for my liking).

Well, there's a girl I met a while ago that I've had my eye on for a long time. We get on really well and she's very attractive....and happens to be recently single. Ever since breaking up she's hitting me up saying we should go on a weekend away together, stay in a hotel, get drunk together etc. etc. and I feel like I've screwed myself by getting involved with these other two chicks.

Now to be fair I've not even met the other two (Tinder and OLD). So I could just go non-contact, we're not even dating for heaven's sake. But I always feel like a bit of a pr*ck in this situation because now they want to meet up I'm suddenly pulling away. I've got their numbers and they're texting almost every night.

I know push-pull is effective for stoking interest, but in this case I'm pulling because...I've pulled elsewhere! What do you guys do in this situation, and should I be feeling guilty about this or am I being ridiculous?

I mean, things with newly-single-chick might not be going anywhere anyway...but I don't want to be banging 3 girls at once because it's never been a style I'm 100% comfortable with. May not be very "DJ", but I have my code and not sticking to it feels grimy.

 

[Poonstra]

I would go ahead and a least meet the other girls. They might be better/more fun than the first one. Like you said, you're not even dating so you owe her nothing.

Personally, while still getting to know them, I would try and sleep with all three of them and make sure they find each others hairs in my house/bed. Nothing to get their competition anxiety going like an other female's hair. After a a bit pick the one you like best. However, exclusivity has to be her idea.

Please note, do not do this with women you've been seeing for a while.

 

[Glassguy]

You should not break contact with the other chicks just because the one is making herself readily available.

Why not take her out for drinks and see what happens? I wouldnt go take some romantic getaway with her for obvious reasons. Keeping the meet ups short builds attraction. Vacations with chicks should only happen months in when you are "together" and she has brought up the exclusive talk.

If you start talking to only her and it fizzles out after a date or two you are left with nothing. I dont understand anyone putting all of their eggs in one basket in terms of dating.

And its certainly not like women are only going to talk to one dude if they are attractive and have their shyte together.

 

[jaymbrs]

I would take a rebound girl over some online dating girls that barely give a fvck

Yep. You got one that's a guaranteed lay and 2 that could end up being dudes.

 

[jaymbrs]

You should not break contact with the other chicks just because the one is making herself readily available.

Why not take her out for drinks and see what happens? I wouldnt go take some romantic getaway with her for obvious reasons. Keeping the meet ups short builds attraction. Vacations with chicks should only happen months in when you are "together" and she has brought up the exclusive talk.

If you start talking to only her and it fizzles out after a date or two you are left with nothing. I dont understand anyone putting all of their eggs in one basket in terms of dating.

And its certainly not like women are only going to talk to one dude if they are attractive and have their shyte together.

She already said she wants to get a hotel room and get drunk. That's as straight forward most women will be about having a ****fest.

 

[Glassguy]

She already said she wants to get a hotel room and get drunk. That's as straight forward most women will be about having a ****fest.

Great. It has no bearing on good reasoning to stop talking to other chicks.

 

[Glassguy]

Absolutely true, but they will overtly and covertly lie and misdirect to the point where your faith in this principle is severely tested. Hot women game is literally just trying to get you to shut your brain off to this so that you don't resent their opportunistic, disingenuous behavior.

Only if you allow them to be manipulative. Fight fire with fire. Have a IDGAF attitude and keep spinning multiple plates. What she doesnt know wont hurt her.

This was put well in a recent AMS clip I watched on Youtube. You are either going to be the manipulator or the manipulated. Being the manipulator is a much better position to be in. Sell them on whatever they want to hear and get what you're after.

 

[jaymbrs]

Great. It has no bearing on good reasoning to stop talking to other chicks.

The OP mentioned he doesnt feel comfortable banging 3 chicks. So in his case, it might be.