"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hitting on girls, Displays confidence? *Confused*

bearfan34201

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Ok so I hear some people claim "don't hit on girls, which makes you different than every other chump out there."

But would'nt hitting on them be displaying confidence in yourself to be able to talk to a girl? Hitting on I would think involved flirting, kino, sexual talk. Which I thought was all a MUST to be successful with women.


So what am I missing?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ace of Flames

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I dunno where you're hearing this from, but I'd just forget it.

The only thing I can think of that you shouldn't do is cat calls. Don't yell and whistle when a girl walks by, that's just kind of sad.
 

bearfan34201

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Ace of Flames said:
I dunno where you're hearing this from, but I'd just forget it.

The only thing I can think of that you shouldn't do is cat calls. Don't yell and whistle when a girl walks by, that's just kind of sad.
That just displays idiots being idiots
 

Flabbergasped?

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This is just the eternal question as to who should show interest first, the girl or the guy?

Since most AFCs are desperate and want some ASAP, they'll immediately convey interest to the girl, usually in a wimpy way. On the other hand, the pinnacle of a person's DJ training would have them chillin', while girls approach/flirt/hit on them. Most people kinda misunderstand the dynamic nature of this relationship though.

Unless you emit an amazing vibe of collection and suaveness, girls won't initiate anything. It's up to you to keep the conversation going, and to keep the mood light. 99% of the time, flirting is how you do it. I read somewhere once that "flirting is an invitation for sex, without the guarantee of it." It's the dramatic ambiguity that makes it so appealing. Good sexual innuendos, jokes, and the like, coupled with effective kino, makes chick cream their pants.

Now, as a response to your additional question, you should always flirt. I can't really imagine a situation when you don't, unless you're already good @ the DJ thing. Just don't be a pvssy AFC. Don't worship her, don't stutter and look away, don't use pick-up lines. Just be confident, neg her, and keep the kino going.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I agree with these guys, hit on women, flirt with them, make them feel good about themselves; that's the key to DJ success.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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