"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hit Rock Bottom. Pulled out a drill.

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Goddamn. I'm a shadow of my former self, and my formal self wasn't even all that great. But I at least had pride, and made attempts to better myself. I've been in a slump since November after something happened. For ease of reference, pretend I have the lowest self esteem you've ever seen. Cause thats pretty close to how far I've fallen. I'm talking scared to make eye contact sh**. This is new for me!!! I can't enjoy anything because I feel worthless.

My first step, is to reduce my internet time. After I take care of some business, I'm chucking out my computer. Thats been my biggest crutch and "comfort" so I have to get rid of it.

After that I'm not sure. It feels so weird to be worse than I was before I started. Has anyone here come out of a MASSIVE slump(barely function in a social setting) than before?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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JustLurk

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HardLeftHook said:
Has anyone here come out of a MASSIVE slump(barely function in a social setting) than before?
Nowhere to go but up. Either you'll get better or you'ree be ruined, either by death or ending up needing therapy. The less you've got to lose the more incentive and less risk there is in making gains.

Go do it!
 

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Stop looking at so much porn. That's the fastest way to recovery. Check the link in my sig
 

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I've been there in similar circumstances before (proly there right now) but what I realize is that it's your attitude towards the situation that makes all the damn difference. Accept yourself for who are first, then accept that you want/need to change.

Once you've done that, I find that you need to cultivate a healthy and active lifestyle: develop hobbies, spend time with friends, go out and get drunk, find amusement in women, etc. You know, do things that make you feel good. Make "feeling good about yourself" the norm.

It never helps to worry so you might as well live each day like it was on purpose. Just know what you want out of each day and set small goals to assist in getting what you want. That way you'll gradually become, then surpass, who you were and are now.

Just keep your head up man. Just understand that "not everyday is Christmas"

From the bottom you can only move up (or remain where you are).
MOVE UP!
 

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HardLeftHook said:
Goddamn. I'm a shadow of my former self, and my formal self wasn't even all that great. But I at least had pride, and made attempts to better myself. I've been in a slump since November after something happened. For ease of reference, pretend I have the lowest self esteem you've ever seen. Cause thats pretty close to how far I've fallen. I'm talking scared to make eye contact sh**. This is new for me!!! I can't enjoy anything because I feel worthless.

My first step, is to reduce my internet time. After I take care of some business, I'm chucking out my computer. Thats been my biggest crutch and "comfort" so I have to get rid of it.

After that I'm not sure. It feels so weird to be worse than I was before I started. Has anyone here come out of a MASSIVE slump(barely function in a social setting) than before?

You have no idea who you are or why you might actually have some value. Start digging in your past to find out why you are this way- then forgive those people, realize you aren't perfect and then realize there are girls that will still like you
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Movin' on up to the east side. You'll finally get a piece of the pie. Don't worry listen to some motivational speeches and get on back out in the world as a new man.
 
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