Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hit rock bottom, need advice.

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Ive come to the point where advice are only useful short term as an inspiration and a reminder but long term success comes from myself. Having this thread up just makes me feel worse and that is the last thing I want to feel. Thanks to whoever read my post.

If there is anyone else out there felt like they've reached rock bottom. Feel free to PM and I'll be more than happy to share my story.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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squirrels

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With what? Girls? Life?

You can't be out on the street, since you have regular Internet access, right?

If it's about women...it's not that serious. Honestly.
 

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I concur with the above. Anytime I get down or frustrated about something (and especially if that something in any way relates to women), I am reminded about how blessed I am to live a relatively comfortable life, and how insignificant most of my worries are in the grand scheme of things.

It often takes an event like the earthquakes in Haiti for people like us to better appreciate how fortunate we are to live where we live and to have the advantages we enjoy. The mere fact that we have time to expend thought and energy on women "problems" speaks volumes about how fortunate we are.

This too shall pass.
 

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Right now the people of Port au Prince, Haiti are at rock bottom. Keep your head up bro.
 

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DMSR76 said:
It often takes an event like the earthquakes in Haiti for people like us to better appreciate how fortunate we are to live where we live and to have the advantages we enjoy. The mere fact that we have time to expend thought and energy on women "problems" speaks volumes about how fortunate we are.

This too shall pass.
Interestingly though, our problems with women are directly connected to the privileged life we(and the women) enjoy....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Grue said:
Interestingly though, our problems with women are directly connected to the privileged life we(and the women) enjoy....
Furthermore, I'd be willing to bet that many of the people currently struggling in Haiti...probably don't have nearly as much trouble getting laid as we do in "first-world" countries.

Just a thought...as long as the convo is going down this avenue.
 

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Tim432 said:
Ive come to the point where advice are only useful short term as an inspiration and a reminder but long term success comes from myself. Having this thread up just makes me feel worse and that is the last thing I want to feel. Thanks to whoever read my post.
What an annoying first post comment. Try some basic introductory information then tell us what is the matter. If you're running your life like your first post comments, I'm not at all surprised you're having difficulties.
 

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What an annoying first post comment. Try some basic introductory information then tell us what is the matter. If you're running your life like your first post comments, I'm not at all surprised you're having difficulties.
It appears to me as though he removed the original post (edited it out). I never read the original post so I have no idea what it was he was saying. But it looks like he was embarassed about the original post so he removed it and replaced it with this note explaining why.
 

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Know Guts, Know Glory
 
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