"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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toasttopper1879

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So there I am.I act cool,I'm ****y,funny and I flirt like mad.I act aloof,disinterested and i dont for one minute actually tell the girl I like her.I'm a bit unavailable,hard to suss out and a mystery.
All these are vitals I read on here to attraction.
So what happens when the girl thinks"bugger him,he's got no interest,I'm off to look elsewhere".Surely this is her response when she,s being made to think that interest level is low.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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spukee

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If that's the case you next her - simple, yeah?

However, the idea isn't to act completely disinterested - you definetly want to make your intentions clear. The idea is to give her mixed signals; push her away, then pull her in closer. It's just something you have to put into action - you can't get anywhere by just reading the forums anyway, y'know?
 

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Don't just do these techniques for the sake of doing them.

Do them to build attraction.

Use whatever works to build attraction. When you see her attracted to you (touching you, asking you questions about yourself, flirting, obvious stuff) then strike while the iron is hot.

If you keep playing around and not taking any actions going in a sexual direction, you're not going to get anywhere. She'll give you the LJBF or go find a man who isn't scared to take sexual action instead of playing games he read on the internet.

-Dominant
 

PRMoon

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I'm with our other two friendly DJ's here. You'll never catch anything if you don't lay a little bait. You've got to give them at least a bit of reason to believe there's some potential there. If you completely ignore them all of the time they'll completely go another way. Girls like games but they deifnately need someone to play with at the same time.
 

toasttopper1879

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Cheers for the replies lads.Of course this is what I do.Just was nt sure if I was meant to.Its like striking a fine balance.
All to often I get accused of leading girls on.I flirt,reel the in,push them away,tease and so on but for some reason i fail to up the ante and take things to the next level and inevitably the lass moves on.Most say I'm too hard to get,too much chalange.
Like I say,I need to strike a finer ballance.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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