"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hip Hop culture and fat, slovenly Don Juans

Blackmm

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Maybe somewhat of a rant here, but thanks to the countless music videos and just taking a big friggin look at culture itself, it seems that hip hop is the only genre that a man can be 200 lbs overweight and still be accepted, even prized by women and not admonished for his gluttony.

The clothing was designed around large folks. I swear some of those xxxl shirts look more like night gowns than t-shirts. I used to think that the extra size was to conceal stolen goods, drugs or guns, but it turns out that it was designed to conceal belly.

Just think about it: you don't see this in the rock/alternative scene. If Brett Michaels was 350, would he have his sown show? Most country singers are somewhat in shape. Only in hip hop.

Your thoughts?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well most of mainstream rap seems to advocate greediness surrounding just about everything so its not a surprise this is accepted in the rap community.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Well most of mainstream rap seems to advocate greediness surrounding just about everything so its not a surprise this is accepted in the rap community.
This is so true. Its ironic that this is not reflected that much in the women of the genre. Pick up any copy of King, XXL, etc and most of those women are fit (maybe an ass larger than the average mainstream model) but no where as fat as the slobs they drape their bodies over.
 

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all i could think of is John Popper and Meatloaf

but I'd blame the tweek more than a genuine desire to be in shape
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Capitalistic society ITSELF advocates greediness. And in our modern times this is only highlighted.

Rap is just used as the scapegoat, get it into your ignorant heads.

For every example of a rapper you provide that fits that stereotype, I can provide two counter-examples.

The fact is, they have money, and they use their money as a source to get girls, and you are jealous that YOU aren't the ones girls are draping themselves over.

In both cases, neither you nor those rappers are REAL MEN.
 

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What about the Italian community glorifying overweight guys? I remember that joke in the Adam Sandler movie 'Big Daddy' with the mafia looking dude.

Also, fat people aren't glorified in either community, only fat people WITH money.
 

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you realize those women are paid to act like that in hip-hop videos right?

you realize those girls PROBABLY are in a win-win situation, right? they get paid to get free exposure.

don't quote me on this, but i have a feeling this is a subtle way to get your racial differences out.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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yah this is a rant. in the words of one hiphop song... you just do you, imma do me!
 

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You can't get the women you desire so you call a foul on Hip-Hop? What a loser. And yeah, most capitilistic-driven cultures accept, if not encourage excessive self-indulgence.
 

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They might get the women, but few of the women really want to stay with a fat ugly fvck who sweats all over the bedsheets every night.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ready123 said:
all i could think of is John Popper and Meatloaf

but I'd blame the tweek more than a genuine desire to be in shape
John Popper had gastric bypass and weighs in at only 170 lbs. Meatloaf is about half of his former self too.

Look at Jim Gandolfini or one of the other male Soprano cast members. Big fat fvcks who have no issues with women.
 

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Blackmm said:
Maybe somewhat of a rant here, but thanks to the countless music videos and just taking a big friggin look at culture itself, it seems that hip hop is the only genre that a man can be 200 lbs overweight and still be accepted, even prized by women and not admonished for his gluttony.

The clothing was designed around large folks. I swear some of those xxxl shirts look more like night gowns than t-shirts. I used to think that the extra size was to conceal stolen goods, drugs or guns, but it turns out that it was designed to conceal belly.

Just think about it: you don't see this in the rock/alternative scene. If Brett Michaels was 350, would he have his sown show? Most country singers are somewhat in shape. Only in hip hop.

Your thoughts?
You need to remember that in a capitalist society money makes everything "OK".. i.e. social standards are allowed to decay as long in favor of high profits.. Females instinctively move toward the males with the most resorces (money) as these males have the highest capacity to finance them and thier offspring.

Those video hos are not attracted to "physicaly attracted" to those fat rapper.. they are "financially attracted" to them and it does not matter cause its not like these hos are only gona be with those guys. You can bet that they have a variety of of men they call upon when they want a male stripper type to F..
 

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KontrollerX said:
Well most of mainstream rap seems to advocate greediness surrounding just about everything so its not a surprise this is accepted in the rap community.
Greed is a byproduct or side effect of excessive capitalism...

Always remember that rap is owned and controlled and profited form mainly by massive corporations that you never see of hear about. NOT BY THE BLACK MEN THEY EMPLOY TO MAKE TEH PRODUCT..
 

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fuzzx said:
What happened to breakdance being a huge part of hip hop .... man those dudes are in shape.. America is just getting fatter and its starting to show... so instead of breakdancers they put chicks in their video cause it would make that fat fvck look like crap.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TXlQ-aUwdSc

if you can't breakdance then you ain't hip hop.
if you are still talking about break dancing then you are too old to fit into the target market demographic that the corporations that control hip hop make most of thir profits from....
 
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Rap is one of the last true Don Juan venues of entertainment.

If you dont like it, theres always American Idol.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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