Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=19758You'll note that in my GUIDE TO CUTTING UP, I advocate the use of High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) in lieu of the more traditional long, steady-state cardio work as a mean to achieve quicker and more efficient fat loss.
However, I make this recommendation with one caveat. If you are some fat pud who has just started working out, or are generally sedentary then as you may have found out, HIIT IS GOING TO KICK YOUR ASS
Therefore for you non-athlete newbies out there reading this, I have to say that before you even think about tackling a proper HIIT session (i.e. of more than 10 but less than 20 minutes - excluding warm up time) that you must first be able to complete 45 minutes of steady state cardio at 70% of the intensity you would use for interval training.
For example, if you do HIIT on the stairmaster at level 10, then you won't be ready to tackle HIIT until you can do 45 minutes without getting your ass kicked at level 7. Simple enough, right?
To recap, if you're a beginner then you have to start with the long steady state cardio training to build your "aerobic base" (heart, lungs, legs) before you can tackle the heavy duty work.
peace,
D
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Won't lessen your gains, will burn some good FAT, will build high work capacity.HandyAndy said:Would it be good to do HIIT after lifting weights for like 15-20 minutes? I havnt heard of doing this before so some feedback would be nice, pros and cons wouldnt do harm eitherthanks
it's also in muscle loss mode, you want to nip that in the bud ASAP.HandyAndy said:Well after my weight training session wouldnt my body already be in 'fat loss mode' by the time i start cardio afterwards?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Interesting stuff, so basically if you did HIIT post workout.. Ideally you'd want to chug a pwo protein shake right after the HIIT (so as this would limit the muscle loss I'm guessing)?Throttle said:it's also in muscle loss mode, you want to nip that in the bud ASAP.
yes, except that if you can do true HIIT after a 20-rep squat (or equivalent) then you're not lifting hard enough.JohnnyIrish said:If time is a factor here for muscle loss.. then doing the more strenuous HIIT (the HIIT with the higher sprint to rest ratio), giving you more bang for your buck.. would seem to be the better choice. No?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.