highschoolguy
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How do I gain higher status in class?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Higher status in class?
Well I assume you are talking about respect, and people wanting to talk to you.
Well I usually be really smart, and that works, because people will notice you. Also making comments about stuff really helps. Like I am pretty funny. We were discussing postulates in Geometry, and it's a freshman class, so they don't know any better, but I said it made me think of prostates. Big laugh.
Just think of something to comment about, and really be there.
I know a few girls that probaly like me, but they wouldn't even know me if I wasn't outgoing.
If you are willing to answer in class, and talk. then they will see you as confident in yourself, and it will be good for you.
Well I assume you are talking about respect, and people wanting to talk to you.
Well I usually be really smart, and that works, because people will notice you. Also making comments about stuff really helps. Like I am pretty funny. We were discussing postulates in Geometry, and it's a freshman class, so they don't know any better, but I said it made me think of prostates. Big laugh.
Just think of something to comment about, and really be there.
I know a few girls that probaly like me, but they wouldn't even know me if I wasn't outgoing.
If you are willing to answer in class, and talk. then they will see you as confident in yourself, and it will be good for you.
sit/move around in class like James Bond would (stretched out, posture). Make your class mates laugh, flirty with the girls, anyone insults you give as good as you get, if anyone gets in your face stand up to them, dress well, smile*, listen to people when they talk (dont hijack the convo onto something you want to talk about), get peoples MSN/numbers (you'll have a closer connection with them), try hard to get the grades but dont boast (when i was working in a primary school, there was one kid who loved throwing his hand up to answer questions, he was annoying).
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I was just wondering about this because I am in top set in all my subjects and I ace all the maths, ICT and science tests(unfortunately I can't say the same for the other subjects although I am working hard on that). I usually have the answer to all science, maths and ICT questions as, risking sounding like a nerd or geek, I genuinely enjoy these subjects and research them far beyond the required level. Is putting your hand up all the time boasting? Although I take great pride in my abilities in these subjects I do not want to come across as boasting.
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It may be hard to believe, but being really smart can score you BIG points with the girls and put you into some nice situations, BUT you should be modest and not brag (unless of course you do it in a funny way or make fun of her low score). If you are really smart it also gives you the opportunity of teaching others and being a leader in class. In addition to being smart, you gotta have other qualities or they may see you as a nerd. You should do all the other things DJ's do and dress nicely, move slowly, generally act like a pimp, etc. If you do this in combination with great intelligence you already have, you're gold. In my class I was a complete ace and there were like 5 girls in there who liked me (probably admired me a lot). The teacher always put me in their group for class projects (She KNEW they liked me 
) so it was kinda cool. Your question, however, was about gaining status, and there are multiple ways of doing that. Playing football or basketball at my school basically guaranteed you popularity. If you have neither smarts nor physical abilities, you could just make friends with all the cool guys and be the guy everyone knows. Most guys who do this are like class clowns or just really funny or something. Oh yeah, when the teacher asks questions, WAIT to see if anyone else knows the answer before you raise your hand. After a while of acing tests and having everyone know you are really smart, the teacher may just ask you if you know the answer when nobody else does (which happens quite often). Don't let it pressure you into being perfect there though, just answer it modestly but confidently if you know it, and if you don't know the answer, just say you don't know the answer. EVERYONE should show at least a LITTLE vulnerability/weakness. you aren't there to impress people and if you sometimes don't know an answer and say this it shows the girls you are only human (although great) and that you have no worries in the world about that subject.
) so it was kinda cool. Your question, however, was about gaining status, and there are multiple ways of doing that. Playing football or basketball at my school basically guaranteed you popularity. If you have neither smarts nor physical abilities, you could just make friends with all the cool guys and be the guy everyone knows. Most guys who do this are like class clowns or just really funny or something. Oh yeah, when the teacher asks questions, WAIT to see if anyone else knows the answer before you raise your hand. After a while of acing tests and having everyone know you are really smart, the teacher may just ask you if you know the answer when nobody else does (which happens quite often). Don't let it pressure you into being perfect there though, just answer it modestly but confidently if you know it, and if you don't know the answer, just say you don't know the answer. EVERYONE should show at least a LITTLE vulnerability/weakness. you aren't there to impress people and if you sometimes don't know an answer and say this it shows the girls you are only human (although great) and that you have no worries in the world about that subject."She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.