High specs but zero matches - Dating Apps

[Cheeky_James]

Because ( credit to @We_ArE_VeNOM who said this) ; men like to use OLD because they DON'T like rejections. Dude in his bio specifically says he " doesn’t like to approach women in bars and clubs".

So OLD gives the ILLUSION of not having to deal with rejection. But heres the conundrum; after swiping right on thousands of cute women and getting

no likes ,matches ,conversations and especially no dates and even more specifically no second dates and /or sex / relationships

it dawns down on a man that he's been rejected by ALL women who he swiped right on! 3786 rejections ...ouch!! While we do understand that women get exposed to (high value) men they would never be able to meet up untill a few ywars ago, simultaneously men are exposed to being rejected THOUSANDS of times in a shirt time span. We never talk about how OLD can kill a man's self esteem while he doesn't even leave his house! He might've been rejected more often than his previous four grandfathers together!

The "world " ,the dating scene , women collectively tell this man he is NOT attractive enough to even dip their toes into the the and see what's he about!

So what's a man to do? A man has to accept that he's living proof of the definition of insanity because he keeps doing what he did while he expects a different result...

I dont believe that a different sentence structure in his bio will change anything. Match.com.wants to milk him financially. He's a pay pig for the shareholders .

it is but a Game to me the apps.
I play it very much like a video game and (try) to attach no value to matches and rejections.
Chicks can unmatch out of the blue and it’s “meh” for me now.
“Likes” are real tho. It’s nice to get likes
But I do see your point,
And I’d never expect and LTR to come about off an app for me. So mayhe that’s the right call then for him then. idk. That’s a brutal amount of rejections.

 

[Bigpapa]

hmm yeah u could be right again BigPapa.
I see ChadFish experiments etc and the ease they get women, but I was always suspect on the quality of women Chads bang off apps, as that is never shown in the evidence. What’s the smv difference ..that matters

I cannot comment personally on higher tier women and unsure how much they use apps as tbh, I go the mid tier (and lower. ). Only occasionally get a sexy (and crazy) party girl. She’d still be only a sexy 7 tops at that.

I am not an insider in their world, unfortunately
All my study and practice of ‘Game’ never got me to the Promised Land

quality is an issue for even really good pua guys in real life ( where usually the quality is slightly better than on apps )

the conversions usually come from girls in the 4-6 range ( with makeup )

there was a guy whom really knows game and is actually really good. I would not have banged any of the girls he brought home

yeah, occasionally you will find a nice / amazing girl but most of the conversions will come from the 4-6 range ( with makeup )

So far I never met or seen any guy ( even elite level guys ) that are surrounded by beautiful women all the time

James Franco for example, that had a lot of status + good looks, was in sex scandal where he was accused ( and he confessed ) that was using his Hollywood status at his acting school so he can sleep with women with the promise that they will receive roles in movies

None of the girls there wanted to sleep with him because he is a cool and good looking guy, all slept with him for the promise they will be casted into movies

and quite sure that this is the case with the very vast majority of guys that have status ( with or without good looks ), women will sleep with them for what the guys can give them rather because they actually find them cool and sexy and feel the urge to have sex with them because of that

sex that is not transactional is not that easy not even for “chad” tier guys if you also keep an eye on quality

if you have the energy + willingness to bang anything that moves, then yeah the higher you are on the “chad” scale the better. But I doubt that any sane guy can keep up for too long like this

 

[Gamisch]

it is but a Game to me the apps.
I play it very much like a video game and (try) to attach no value to matches and rejections.
Chicks can unmatch out of the blue and it’s “meh” for me now.
“Likes” are real tho. It’s nice to get likes
But I do see your point,
And I’d never expect and LTR to come about off an app for me. So mayhe that’s the right call then for him then. idk. That’s a brutal amount of rejections.

The difference between you and dude is you seem WAY more aloof and way less outcome dependent.

Again, we've already concluded that his looks ain't the problem..its his VIBE.

Life is a b1tch. Its difficult to put in words how the world can punish or reward a man for his vibe/ aura.

I would be a terrible dating coach, because i would tell 90% of my clients to forget about women for at least 18 to 24 months. I would tell my clients to STOP depending on women to be motivated but to rather find intrinsic motivation to become the best version you could ever be. Make money, be strong (physically, spirituality and mentally) and love thy self more than anything else. Find a goal larger than life.

Simultaneously I would be living proof that when you do so you will get better results...

 

[Arete]

Because ( credit to @We_ArE_VeNOM who said this) ; men like to use OLD because they DON'T like rejections. Dude in his bio specifically says he " doesn’t like to approach women in bars and clubs".

So OLD gives the ILLUSION of not having to deal with rejection. But heres the conundrum; after swiping right on thousands of cute women and getting

no likes ,matches ,conversations and especially no dates and even more specifically no second dates and /or sex / relationships

it dawns down on a man that he's been rejected by ALL women who he swiped right on! 3786 rejections ...ouch!! While we do understand that women get exposed to (high value) men they would never be able to meet up untill a few ywars ago, simultaneously men are exposed to being rejected THOUSANDS of times in a short time span. We never talk about how OLD can kill a man's self esteem while he doesn't even leave his house! He might've been rejected more often than his previous four grandfathers together!

The "world " ,the dating scene , women collectively tell this man he is NOT attractive enough to even dip their toes into the the water and see what's he about!

So what's a man to do? A man has to accept that he's living proof of the definition of insanity because he keeps doing what he did while he expects a different result... he should leave OLD, level the F up and come back stronger !

I dont believe that a different sentence structure in his bio will change anything. Match.com.wants to milk him financially. He's a pay pig for the shareholders .

Eventually, I might go to a skilled photographer and see if it makes a difference, but that time isn't now. Like gamisch says, it subconsciously gets discouraging to keep swiping without any attention. Meanwhile, even getting rejected 10 times in real life is very unlikely.

Today I will try going for 10 approaches. Will I manage this? Probably not honestly. My mental state reaches its critical point at around 4 approaches in a single day currently. After that, I need to rest for two days on top of it.

But I will try anyway. I read this from BPH in another thread recently:

The way I got good at this was cold approaching any woman I found attractive and using canned pick-up lines until I no longer feared rejection. Some people can do that; others might be discouraged by such a massive feedback loop of failure before any success.

But if you can stick it out, it proved incredibly effective for my development. Because I didn't have role models, mentors, popular friends, etc. I had to figure it out myself.

My first attempt of the day is typically a brutal burn, but I often get rapidly better on every following attempt made on the same day. Despite that, I'm struggling hard to not get discouraged. Just like BPH explains it.

I will aim to do the same as he did, pushing through it.