High specs but zero matches - Dating Apps

[Gamisch]

https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/s/eYCxEmlxLz

Reddit is nowadays plastered with AFCs asking the same question; I dont have much luck/ get no matches or likes/ wwhat can I do to get more matches/ my ratio is I liked 1000 women while 3 liked me back

it seems like men get punished for being lazy. Men have been getting women WITHOUT Tinder for thousands of years, yet somehow it feels like the modern male cant do without OLD even though they have no success with it..

 

[Bigpapa]

https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/s/eYCxEmlxLz

Reddit is nowadays plastered with AFCs asking the same question; I dont have much luck/ get no matches or likes/ wwhat can I do to get more matches/ my ratio is I liked 1000 women while 3 liked me back

it seems like men get punished for being lazy. Men have been getting women WITHOUT Tinder for thousands of years, yet somehow it feels like the modern male cant do without OLD even though they have no success with it..

Well to be fair, dating ( especially post covid ) got even more complicated than what the historical norm was

and so the quality of women ( in terms of character and personality ), so till an extent I emphasize with the guys

as you need to put a lot of effort and the results are not there ( most of the times )

There is an epidemic of mental problems with both men and women, and no one seems to talk about it

ego is crazy high with both sexes these days which leads to frame wars

 

[Cheeky_James]

https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/s/eYCxEmlxLz

Reddit is nowadays plastered with AFCs asking the same question; I dont have much luck/ get no matches or likes/ wwhat can I do to get more matches/ my ratio is I liked 1000 women while 3 liked me back

it seems like men get punished for being lazy. Men have been getting women WITHOUT Tinder for thousands of years, yet somehow it feels like the modern male cant do without OLD even though they have no success with it..

Exposé said it best bro.
“Seasons change”.
I saw data that in 2025 -65% of couples said they met via online dating.

guys. guys… please ofc it depends what you look like . OP rates himself as a 7 (or whatever)
But everyone has personal bias obvs.
He’s probably a 5 or sub5 smv in reality.

 

[Gamisch]

Exposé said it best bro.
“Seasons change”.
I saw data that in 2025 -65% of couples said they met via online dating.

No I get that.

But heres the conundrum; a WOMAN who decides it time to be in an LTR WILL find a man because men wil literally line up. A man on the other hand ...he can "decide " its time for a " wife" and ZERO women will respond...

So 65 % of relationships were formed online and yet 65% of men dont date at all....

So 35 out of a 100 men date. A smaller percentage finds their partner online , still the 65% can remain accurate.

Its stats like these that leave men dumbfounded and confused. The definition of insanity is doing the same shyte while expecting different results.

 

[Cheeky_James]

@ Gamisch
I edited my post re OPs looks and ofc that’s the main factor. For any guys on apps.
he’s probably 5 or sub5.

I can’t decipher your next point, you’ve moved on to something else.idk.
Apps are not great for finding “the one” no.
But for getting dates with reasonable looking chicks it’s working for me. I posted a screenshot of my # matches in this thread I think.

 

[Bigpapa]

But heres the conundrum; a WOMAN who decides it time to be in an LTR WILL find a man because men wil literally line up.

Yeah, very true this and
not discussed enough

a girl needs to be in the headspace to meet new guys, or for an LTR, etc

if she is not in the headspace for that, the courtship process will not go anywhere despite being the most perfect guy. Unless she is bipolar or any other mental problems

I also noticed that when a girl is focused on marriage she will play things very tight, more or less letting you know from the get go that she wants to marry and things have to progress fast. And noticed that at the end of the day it does not really matter with whom she would do it, as long as the guy is willing to give her what she wants

guess that this is how more “beta” guys get in ltrs and marriages, the woman settles for them

You can always lie to get the lay and then ghost her, but at the end of the day it is something that you can live with or not. Me personally I do not think is worth to smear your character for some p8ssy and I get plenty of failed courtships because not being willing to lie