"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"High self-monitors are social chameleons"

KontrollerX

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ketostix said:
I'm not questioning that being a social chameleon works to get people to like you for a certain period of time at least. But it seems to me woman's nature would be more of a chameleon, and men should be the one with a stronger frame and make her bend to it. Isn't that what I often hear repeated on here, to be the man and to not bend to others' frame?
Yes but if its a Cluster B they will never bend to your frame.

They are what they are and they will not and cannot change no matter what you do as this sick sh!t is their entire personality.

The only person capable of dealing with a Cluster B nutjob is another Cluster B nutjob.

Bend normal women to your frame and bend them over the couch.

Leave Cluster B's to their fellow loons.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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quantumgundam00

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ok so i suffer from this..

its something i started doing subconciously and just now realized what ive been doing. i am a person who fits in everywhere by altering interests and ideals. this is a curse, i find myself looking in the mirror and i cant see who i am. ive lost myself and i cant weed out what i like or dont like. things all seem to roll together and when different groups of friends hang with me i get confused on who to be who whom to act like. i hate this at first it got me many friends and high popularity. but after highschool people started to see through lies and acting and now i have no one. i just want to know how i can find myself again and to be able to quit this. this is such a horrible thing..
 
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