High Schools And Relationships....

[Analyzeit]

Ok, So every now and then i see on this forum that obviously LTR's are very frowned upon in high school and even under 21's really.

Now since this is a discussion forum not just a ask for advice or vent your frustration forum which may surprise you, I would like to discuss this topic and hear your opinions on relationships in high school.

Now my opinion on it, and i've had drunk ONS, sober ONS, Fb's, one threesome and even been pretty much raped by a girl that looked like a dude but at the moment i've been going out with the same girl for 2 months (Makes you wonder why i go on this website, but i'ma tell you now that the best looking chicks have pretty much been the drunk ones haha) Anyway so far i've had a good time in my 2 month relationship (not exactly an LTR but hey) I've enjoyed it, each time we have sex it's just got better and better up to the best i've ever had and it's really changed my opinion on relationships and I'm enjoying it and life much more then anything before.

Now I still think you need to try ONS and stuff or you'll never know what is really for you because my overall my opinion is do what you like best and I'm liking the relationship best and i've tried most of that other stuff, so I'm going to stay in the relationship.

So please tell me your own thoughts and tell me your thought on what i've just said.

 

[intrextrovert]

Idk why ltrs are looked down upon so much in high school, i mean as long as you stay flirting with other girls it seems good to me. In HS there's often a shortage of new girls (eg none a lot of the time) with no preconceptions to game, and a lot of the time you need to at least be in a short term relationship/FB (which in HS is a lot of times pretty much a relationship) to get very far sexually, esp. when younger. You just gotta stay alpha and realize it WILL end, probably very soon or if not in x years when you go to college.

 

[Captain]

The most important thing you can have in any relationship is a willingness to walk away at a moment's notice.

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The problem with most men and LTRs is that they don't realise that they can be in an LTR, and not be exclusive.

Some of them think they have to act different in a relationship, which is wrong. They need to keep doing what works, keep doing what attracted her in the first place.

This is why I don't advocate exclusive relationships. Most men don't have the experience or spine to keep their winning charm in a relationship, which sucks away her interest level, and his own happiness, or they aren't willing to walk away when she acts up, which also kills her interest and his happiness.

 

[Analyzeit]

intextrovert made some great points, not all the time you can find new girls especially if you live in a small town and find it very hard to get out of the town. Making a LTR or STR/FB the only time you can really continuously getting sex.

Captain also some good points but also a very controversial one and that is being an in LTR and not being exclusive and in my experience and watching the world go by non-exclusive LTRs only end badly, but slowly changing to exclusive can work but you still need to make it there. Your other point is good to and true but hard to get information from and really doesn't change mind only very week minded people will say no to having an LTR because they scared they might not have the experience and skill.

Thanks for the posts

 

[blacksham]

Though I am still a virgin (a girl had several times offered to have sex with me, but I refused) I think that LTR's are one of the best things in life. I wholeheartedly disagree with Captain. "Most men" is, in my opinion, far too large of a catagorization. I personally would never even contemplate cheating on a girlfriend, especially to the level of sexual intercourse.

I think that from an emotional standpoint, LTR's are the most important to ones maturity. Without them, what is someone looking for? A never-ending string of ONS's and sex with people whom they have no emotional ties to. That may be great from a Carnal perspective, but I've always seen it that a long-lasting relationship, with carnal knowledge only when there is an emotional bond is the most building.

That said, I have nothing against ONS's, but I think in balance, at some point, learning how to settle down is good, as eventually, most men will want to do so.

 

[Hughman]

I can't really add anything else to what Captain said, but this community doesn't frown upon LTRs per say, some of the best DJs on here are in committed relationships, even married.

However, what we do frown upon is chumps in LTRs, who don't know how to handle their women, get their wallets and hearts torn apart. First you have to sort your inner game out, and your social anxiety problems out before you can consider committing to an LTR, exclusive or otherwise.

My own personal view on the matter is an LTR, by my own definition, is exclusive. If it isn't, then it's just a casual thing.

I can appreciate that relationships before 18 can and are different to the real world, and in some ways i guess this is why I've not had much success beyond number closing and first dates before I found this site, as I was a 'mature chump' for better words for it. Just go with the flow of things, ask them to hang and things will fall into place.

 

[wd40]

the problem with LTRs in high school is that high school is only four years and if you are in an LTR for, lets say, two of those years, you could be missing a lot. Having a girlfriend can be demanding and Ive seen a lot of guys have the best friendships sort of fizzle out because their girlfriend takes up all of their time. Not to mention the experiences of going to parties and being single in what not. I think people who spend high school in these huge LTRs miss out on a lot that they can never get back. You can have LTRs whenever you want but you can only have a high school oriented social life once.

 

[Captain]

Having a girlfriend can be demanding

It should never be demanding. Men who find it demanding are chumps who have no idea how to be a man or be attractive to women.

and Ive seen a lot of guys have the best friendships sort of fizzle out because their girlfriend takes up all of their time.

These men are 100% certified AFCs.

Bros before hos.

This is exactly why young men should not be exclusive. They have no idea what they're doing.

 

[Rhoto]

Ok, So every now and then i see on this forum that obviously LTR's are very frowned upon in high school and even under 21's really.

LTR relationships aren't frowned upon. Settling is. Getting into a relationship because you feel you won't have better options is frowned upon. Having a loving, healthy, honest relationship is encouraged if anything.

Relationships in high school are the most finite relationships around.

You say you have this laundry list of sexual experience, so it would seem that a relationship wouldn't be a path to more tail - a good place to start.

But at 16, you're still really young and yes, still immature. Don't take that offensively, we're all still immature by some degree.

My advice - focus on getting into a great school, developing a superb work ethic, and clarifying whats really important to you. Getting into a relationship in high school is self-limiting.

Women are a dime a dozen and you'll meet new, attractive ones every day. Get into a good university man.