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Master Don Juan
I've recently graduated from high-school and have some knowledge to share with some of you freshman or currently enrolled dudes. First here's a quick history lesson of my back story:
My dad died when I was about 5, so I've been raised mainly by my mom along with my three other sisters.
My freshman and sophomore years were pretty much filled with depression, frustration, and just overall negativity and egocentrically. It was bad, and I actually switched schools with my friend in desperation of poon. My junior year at my new school wasn't any different. I was now a QUIET, depressed, frustrated, and negative egocentric loser. My friend that I moved over with wasn't any better, in fact he's arguably worse than he was before. Or maybe he was to begin with. In the middle of my junior year I had a realization that I didn't like who I was or becoming. I mean, I started to dress toward the "scene kid/emo" style and even getting into that type of music- this was similar and still is to my friends style. I started dipping my hands into some psychology to maybe get an understanding of some things that I was going through. It was then that I researched OCD that I stumbled upon BPD on SS.
I can't remember what thread I saw exactly, but it was definitely about BPD and everyone was posting their experiences in it. That wasn't what had attracted me, I saw the articles that are advertised at the top of the page and begin to search around. Since I was ready for change and opened myself up to difference, I began to absorb the information presented here.
I then lost the "emo/scene" early stages of style and cultivated my very own confident style. I completely redirected my mindset from negative to positive and overall just became a better person. My friend however is the unlucky one. He still indulges in that style and negative mindset, he is now in a "relationship" with a girl whom he has zero power over. She literally has the power to decide what he does for himself. In short, he likes the relationship but not the girl. But he doesn't know this.
Now about high-school. Since I was a late bloomer(early/mid senior year) I missed out on A LOT of opportunities and social circles. Now I'm naturally an introverted person but since my new confidence lets my personality shine, you wouldn't think that. I'm actually pretty loud, fun, open, and overall not serious until it's needed but I would usually feel "homesick" in a sense and would need time for myself. The route that I took until the finish line is one that will benefit me after high-school. I realized that it was too late to really do anything so I decided to cold approach, ON CAMPUS. I had seven through senior year, that's about seven more than any other year. Therefore, I improved by about 100%. I actually don't recommend doing this UNLESS you're serious about self improvement and can handle rejection well. Now I don't have a scruffy or bum look to me, I walk with confidence, dress accordingly, do my hair, smile with my teeth etc, work out, do well in sports, all that jazz. Still I didn't get one number through cold approaching unless it was from a social circle. I realized that social circle game was the way to go midway senior year, but because it was so easy I deemed it "unlearn-able" and banned myself from doing it. This prevented me from getting laid. I also placed a ban on social media, as it was more of a distraction toward my improvement rather than a "time killer."
So I basically couldn't hook up through social circles, social media, and on top of that I wasn't in any team or club. My only option at that point was to cold approach, this was fine because I wanted to get good at it when it mattered after high-school. Those seven approaches may not seem a lot, but they were hell getting the courage and emotional discipline to go up there and ask flat out if she was single and for a number. It got to the point where I would postpone certain girls because I was simply too nervous. After some frustration I realized that getting frustrated and moving quick wasn't working. So I decided to go at my own pace, and that's where I began to get more results. It's slow, but I eventually got the job done. It was kind of ironic because whenever a dance came from which night game became dominant, I became fearless. I'm able to approach any girl, group or not, and basically do whatever a want without a shred of being nervous. Night game is really easy for me compared to day game.
My dad died when I was about 5, so I've been raised mainly by my mom along with my three other sisters.
My freshman and sophomore years were pretty much filled with depression, frustration, and just overall negativity and egocentrically. It was bad, and I actually switched schools with my friend in desperation of poon. My junior year at my new school wasn't any different. I was now a QUIET, depressed, frustrated, and negative egocentric loser. My friend that I moved over with wasn't any better, in fact he's arguably worse than he was before. Or maybe he was to begin with. In the middle of my junior year I had a realization that I didn't like who I was or becoming. I mean, I started to dress toward the "scene kid/emo" style and even getting into that type of music- this was similar and still is to my friends style. I started dipping my hands into some psychology to maybe get an understanding of some things that I was going through. It was then that I researched OCD that I stumbled upon BPD on SS.
I can't remember what thread I saw exactly, but it was definitely about BPD and everyone was posting their experiences in it. That wasn't what had attracted me, I saw the articles that are advertised at the top of the page and begin to search around. Since I was ready for change and opened myself up to difference, I began to absorb the information presented here.
I then lost the "emo/scene" early stages of style and cultivated my very own confident style. I completely redirected my mindset from negative to positive and overall just became a better person. My friend however is the unlucky one. He still indulges in that style and negative mindset, he is now in a "relationship" with a girl whom he has zero power over. She literally has the power to decide what he does for himself. In short, he likes the relationship but not the girl. But he doesn't know this.
Now about high-school. Since I was a late bloomer(early/mid senior year) I missed out on A LOT of opportunities and social circles. Now I'm naturally an introverted person but since my new confidence lets my personality shine, you wouldn't think that. I'm actually pretty loud, fun, open, and overall not serious until it's needed but I would usually feel "homesick" in a sense and would need time for myself. The route that I took until the finish line is one that will benefit me after high-school. I realized that it was too late to really do anything so I decided to cold approach, ON CAMPUS. I had seven through senior year, that's about seven more than any other year. Therefore, I improved by about 100%. I actually don't recommend doing this UNLESS you're serious about self improvement and can handle rejection well. Now I don't have a scruffy or bum look to me, I walk with confidence, dress accordingly, do my hair, smile with my teeth etc, work out, do well in sports, all that jazz. Still I didn't get one number through cold approaching unless it was from a social circle. I realized that social circle game was the way to go midway senior year, but because it was so easy I deemed it "unlearn-able" and banned myself from doing it. This prevented me from getting laid. I also placed a ban on social media, as it was more of a distraction toward my improvement rather than a "time killer."
So I basically couldn't hook up through social circles, social media, and on top of that I wasn't in any team or club. My only option at that point was to cold approach, this was fine because I wanted to get good at it when it mattered after high-school. Those seven approaches may not seem a lot, but they were hell getting the courage and emotional discipline to go up there and ask flat out if she was single and for a number. It got to the point where I would postpone certain girls because I was simply too nervous. After some frustration I realized that getting frustrated and moving quick wasn't working. So I decided to go at my own pace, and that's where I began to get more results. It's slow, but I eventually got the job done. It was kind of ironic because whenever a dance came from which night game became dominant, I became fearless. I'm able to approach any girl, group or not, and basically do whatever a want without a shred of being nervous. Night game is really easy for me compared to day game.
Here's some DO's for high-school:
1. Join a sports team or club.
My god, social circle's are so dominant in high-school it's not even funny. For the best experiences JOIN SOMETHING! Oh yeah, if your school has a "Dance" option that counts as a P.E credit, TAKE THAT class if possible. It's pretty much filled with girls, and yes most of them are attractive.
2. Talk to everyone.
Even if it's just small talk. I personally don't like small talk, but since it's a but of an error in my game- I have to learn to like it. Even if it's something small, just talk to people and laugh about it. People always like someone to talk to, unless they're an AFC.
3. Speak your mind.
Seriously, some kids might hate you for this but who cares. It gets you noticed and some people will even find you funny. If it's something serious, try making it funny or tackle it with indifference.
4. Workout.
It's not a bad thing to come out of nowhere in the crowds and be able to throw a football really far or be able to play a sport really well. Working out serves many purposes. There's no real negative side to this.
5. Social media.
Social media would only make sense for an environment run by social circles. Takes pictures, comment, do whatever it takes. Except eating tampons. You should know the boundaries...
6. Kino.
Kino is like a magic bullet. It's so strong and if you do this on top of everything else, you're basically automatically "charming." Even if you have to get by or someone did something great, touch them appropriately. Personal boundaries are only a thing in the U.S!
7. Go to dances and games.
Unless you don't have a group to go with, go to these. It's not a bad idea to show some school spirit and have the chance to meet some new people. Oh yeah, I also ran SOLO throughout all of my dances/night game experiences. It's a lot better to have multiple dates rather than one.
8. Be positive.
Nobody likes a negative Nancy. Always be positive no matter what, you'll love it as much as other people.
9. Be friendly.
If someone gets hurt physically or is hurt emotionally, go to their aid. Now don't go all AFC emotional tampon, just ask basic questions and listen. Just listen.
10. Do your own thing.
Seriously, you want to show up in your pajamas? Then do it. Don't want to be apart of a project you have no interest in? Leave or purpose a different topic. Disagree with something? Voice it.
11. Cold approach
At least do it once! Go up to a random girl you don't know but you think is attractive, ask if shes single etc...
12. Find a hobby/passion/goal
Important. As men, we are driven by achieving and setting goals. We need to find something that makes us happy. Women DO NOT and SHOULD NOT make you happy, you make yourself happy through hobbies and passions.
13. Do well in school.
This one is REALLY important. I realized that nearly all of the attractive/hot/cute girls are all in really smart classes(honors, AP, 3-4 classes, or those classes that require a first course requirement). DO WHATEVER it takes to get into these classes! Cheat, study, whatever. This is another vital one to social circles.
That's basically it. Most people take high-school seriously, it really isn't. Those people are generally just frustrated. And you shouldn't ever have any female problems, if you do it's because you're thinking with your emotions. Controlling your emotions is key to being a man and controlling life around you. You control the situation, the situation doesn't control you. I like to call this "Eastern Discipline." Mainly because most religious groups in the eastern hemisphere achieve this state of mind. Like those monks in the mountains, man they're certainly disciplined! But if you want to go hard and do what I did and not get laid or miss out on some parties, then go for it. Anything you do at this point is only going to benefit you anyway. High-school is the years for experimenting, so go experiment!
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