RJthemadspecialist
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Basically I'm gonna talk about my experience in high school, in case anyone wants to read. I'm also looking for any advice anyone would like to share. The majority if not all of this post is going to deal with my interactions with girls. When I was a freshman, I was tall and pretty skinny. I had no experience with girls, and I wound up dating this chick that hung out with all the kids who wear animal hats and read manga religiously. Yeah, you know who I'm talking about. After I broke up with that girl, I started to become more normal, and distanced myself from all the kids that look like they should be at comic con. No offense to anyone who's into comic con, you know what I mean. Anyway, I started to lift weights and do sports to the point that now I'm basically an average sized high schooler, maybe slightly bigger. I developed a preference for a particular type of girl. Girls that were really attractive were the primary interest of course, but it was like the less attainable they were, the more attractive they became to me. I go to high school in an affluent area, though my family would be considered middle class. There are large groups of kids that have known each other since they were in elementary school, and they often keep to their inner circles. They all have parties and leave school during the lunch period to go out for lunch, which I don't do mainly because I don't have a car but also because the last thing I need on my college apps is disciplinary action. The other day I heard these kids talking about prom this year and their plans to take particular girls. They sounded so sure that these girls would go with them, and they talked about these girls like they were animals or something. I don't have a problem with people looking for action in high school, it's just that I try to be nice and humble about that kind of stuff and at least respect the girls. Yet it's shocking that these girls are so good looking and they hook up with and/or date these kids that are absolute tools. They all go to these dubstep concerts and play lacrosse or football and call each other brah. Not that there's anything wrong with any of that, I'm just trying to convey who these kids are. Anyway, the only people that seem to agree with me that these kids are absolute tools always end up being band kids or generally introverted people. It's like I started high school being in the crowd of least popular kids, and in trying to get into a group with the popular kids, I worked my way out of any group and just got stuck by myself in limbo. I have plenty of friends at school and outside of school, but it's just like they're acquaintances and they would never actually hang out with me or anything. I personally don't think I'm a bad looking kid, and I've been told I'm good looking by at least a handful of people before, so my self esteem isn't bad, I just realize I need to break these mental barriers that are holding me back from getting girls. I just want to find a good looking and nice normal girl to date or at least get an attractive, nice girl to go to the prom with me. This sounds pathetic in some ways but at least putting this into words is helping me visualize what I need to do and maybe you all will have some advice. Prom this semester is my biggest concern. Last year everybody used elaborate ways of asking girls to prom, which was weird for me because I think that's something you should only do if you've been in a relationship with the girl for a while, not just meet some girl and put balloons on her car and write prom? on the window of her car a couple weeks later. In that case I'd just keep talking with the person and eventually ask politely if they'd like to go with me. There was this one girl I really wanted to go with last year. She is really attractive, and she was nice to me and I made her laugh. I had known her for a long time, just not been extremely good pals, but we had been in classes since middle school and we both knew each other decently well. She was telling me she was worrying about not having anybody ask her to prom, and she wanted someone to ask her in an elaborate way with something big. So I wrote her a really heart felt poem and asked her to go with me, and she told me I was really sweet but she already was going with a group of girls and had her limo planned out and stuff, which was obviously a lie since she was telling me about her worrying about someone asking her not long before. I wasn't sure she was lying but the day after she said no to me, she posted pictures on the internet of a guy asking her to prom with flowers spelling the word prom? on a posterboard. She ended up going with that guy and it was just such a slap in the face that she went to all the trouble of lying instead of just telling me she didn't want to go. The point is, I just don't want that to happen this year. I don't mind if the girl I go with isn't real popular, I just don't want her to be a girl that no one else would go with or something like that.
