novaknight
Senior Don Juan
3/10. Another average girl. It seems that average girls are the easiest to approach (actually easier then the UGs, cause sometimes eyeballs explode around them :3)
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
High School Don Juan Bootcamp: Week 1 - Hit The Ground Running
- Thread starter TheVirtualMind
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BPH
Master Don Juan
I've met one...I hate this challenge...
My parents are whining about me wanting to go all the way to the mall and the only girl I met was during 1st period yesterday...it sucks, there's like 500 people in my school and I could probably name all of them, short of the freshman - which are separate.
My parents are whining about me wanting to go all the way to the mall and the only girl I met was during 1st period yesterday...it sucks, there's like 500 people in my school and I could probably name all of them, short of the freshman - which are separate.
Innovater
Don Juan
Just joined the forum so only recently saw the objective. Going to try get all 10 done today/tomorrow in time for the next one.
5/10 - nothing remarkable.
I missed a chance to introduce myself to a chick today, oh well. If you don't go out, this becomes quite difficult.
If I fail this challenge, I'm not worried - approach anxiety is the least of my issues. But I have one whole day left, which should be enough to catch up
I missed a chance to introduce myself to a chick today, oh well. If you don't go out, this becomes quite difficult.
If I fail this challenge, I'm not worried - approach anxiety is the least of my issues. But I have one whole day left, which should be enough to catch up
BPH
Master Don Juan
Finished...really not proud of who I had to approach though...moms and fat chicks for the most part...Delaware girls are not known for being hot.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HELL YEAH!
I though that I couldn't go up to 10 approaches, but I actually did. Once I get started and the momentum is on, it gets easier and easier. Hell yeah! Feeling good. I did 11 approaches and got approximately 7 names. To my eyes, the most important part was approaching. As long as I approached, I already won. I didn't care really about the results. I just did what I had to do. I was direct. I liked the fact that I asked for their names directly instead of guessing some random name and leaving like I used to do.
The good ones went like this :
Me : Hey! How are you?
Her : Good
Me : What's your name?
Her : Hum... *looks around smiling* (name). Why? x)
Me : Ohhh! I though you were Roberta! Sorry wrong person.
Her : Haha okay! XD
Me : Bye!
Her : Bye!
There was this HB7 asian girl. She was probably in her twenties. She acted so repelled haha. I was feeling pretty low anxiety at this moment. It felt great! I didn't care about the rejection and I took it very well.
Me : Hey, how are you?
Her : *looks at me, looks straight and ignore. Keeps walking*
Me : Hey, what's your name?
Her : ...Why do you want my name? ******y face, keeps walking*
Me : Oh it's because, I though you were Roberta.
Her : *looks at me weird while continuing walking*
You can regret inaction, but you will never regret action. - DJ Fuji
It made me realize that there are SO many girls out there. That girl named Carly that I used to like, I saw her the same day at the mall and I realized that... this girl I used to get crazy over really isn't that pretty. Seriously! Same goes for Mel, that girl that refused to date me. She's pretty, okay, but she isn't the only one. There are other gorgeous ones in this world.
My friend Casta is THE best friend ever. He also did his 11 approaches and got maybe the same amount of names. He's down to take the bootcamp seriously 'till the end. So am I! We will go on 'till the end.
When I'll get to the 13th week, I'll remember this first post. I'll remember this and I'll realize how much I changed. I'll be so proud.
Anyway guys, hope it went well for all of you. If you didn't reach 10, it doesn't matter. As long as you feel like you learned something and gained experience, this is what really counts. As long as you progress constantly.
I'M READY FOR WEEK 2! BRING IT ON.
For 2012, I'm making no excuses.
I though that I couldn't go up to 10 approaches, but I actually did. Once I get started and the momentum is on, it gets easier and easier. Hell yeah! Feeling good. I did 11 approaches and got approximately 7 names. To my eyes, the most important part was approaching. As long as I approached, I already won. I didn't care really about the results. I just did what I had to do. I was direct. I liked the fact that I asked for their names directly instead of guessing some random name and leaving like I used to do.
The good ones went like this :
Me : Hey! How are you?
Her : Good
Me : What's your name?
Her : Hum... *looks around smiling* (name). Why? x)
Me : Ohhh! I though you were Roberta! Sorry wrong person.
Her : Haha okay! XD
Me : Bye!
Her : Bye!
There was this HB7 asian girl. She was probably in her twenties. She acted so repelled haha. I was feeling pretty low anxiety at this moment. It felt great! I didn't care about the rejection and I took it very well.
Me : Hey, how are you?
Her : *looks at me, looks straight and ignore. Keeps walking*
Me : Hey, what's your name?
Her : ...Why do you want my name? ******y face, keeps walking*
Me : Oh it's because, I though you were Roberta.
Her : *looks at me weird while continuing walking*
You can regret inaction, but you will never regret action. - DJ Fuji
It made me realize that there are SO many girls out there. That girl named Carly that I used to like, I saw her the same day at the mall and I realized that... this girl I used to get crazy over really isn't that pretty. Seriously! Same goes for Mel, that girl that refused to date me. She's pretty, okay, but she isn't the only one. There are other gorgeous ones in this world.
My friend Casta is THE best friend ever. He also did his 11 approaches and got maybe the same amount of names. He's down to take the bootcamp seriously 'till the end. So am I! We will go on 'till the end.
When I'll get to the 13th week, I'll remember this first post. I'll remember this and I'll realize how much I changed. I'll be so proud.
Anyway guys, hope it went well for all of you. If you didn't reach 10, it doesn't matter. As long as you feel like you learned something and gained experience, this is what really counts. As long as you progress constantly.
I'M READY FOR WEEK 2! BRING IT ON.
For 2012, I'm making no excuses.
The Libertine
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I was waiting for my bus before my coffee date and I had to blow my nose so I asked the only girl at the bus stop for a napkin. I also asked her for her name just for the sake of the bootcamp. 7/10[/B
Then while at the coffee shop the girls on the table next to us get up and I make eye contact with one of them as she seemed familiar. 10 seconds of that and then she said "You seem really familiar". It turned out she studied in my best friend's school and she knew that I was at a party last week as a friend of hers was there. So I introduced myself to her and her friend. 9/10 There were a couple of things that freaked me out during that interaction which I'll post in my journal.
Then while at the coffee shop the girls on the table next to us get up and I make eye contact with one of them as she seemed familiar. 10 seconds of that and then she said "You seem really familiar". It turned out she studied in my best friend's school and she knew that I was at a party last week as a friend of hers was there. So I introduced myself to her and her friend. 9/10 There were a couple of things that freaked me out during that interaction which I'll post in my journal.
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
Quest of the Knight. Week Two's Challenge!
At last. We are at week two.
Ladies and gentlemen, I beckon you all to join my crusade. This quest is going to be some epic stuff. It's not about finding some sort of lost holy grail. Much more, I tell you. This stuff will change your lives.
You will be doing 3 approaches. One of them should end in a number close.
Ugly girl? Hot girl? It don't matter. GO DO SOMETHING.
At last. We are at week two.
Ladies and gentlemen, I beckon you all to join my crusade. This quest is going to be some epic stuff. It's not about finding some sort of lost holy grail. Much more, I tell you. This stuff will change your lives.
You will be doing 3 approaches. One of them should end in a number close.
Ugly girl? Hot girl? It don't matter. GO DO SOMETHING.
Alright asian bro, let's do this. What if none of the 3 give you a number? Does number closing is asking for the number or actually getting it? I'll probably do it until I get a number!
Thanks for answering, and I'll be doing more than 3 approaches at the mall for sure.
GOOD LUCK GUYS! NO EXCUSES, JUST DO IT!
Thanks for answering, and I'll be doing more than 3 approaches at the mall for sure.
GOOD LUCK GUYS! NO EXCUSES, JUST DO IT!
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
Quest of the Knight: Bonus Side Challenge.
This is just a side challenge.
You know what? I'd hate to say this, but looks do matter. Yeah, it sucks, and it's totally unfair, but that's life.
But you're not stuck with what your maker/your genetic code/Evolution dealt with you. You certainly can make improvements.
Take a look at someone like BPH. He's good looking. He can afford to have high standards with girls, while someone like I only dreams of the girls he brushes off.
Gents, do something this week to make yourself better looking. Working out, getting a haircut, clothes, you name it! Go for it.
This is just a side challenge.
You know what? I'd hate to say this, but looks do matter. Yeah, it sucks, and it's totally unfair, but that's life.
But you're not stuck with what your maker/your genetic code/Evolution dealt with you. You certainly can make improvements.
Take a look at someone like BPH. He's good looking. He can afford to have high standards with girls, while someone like I only dreams of the girls he brushes off.
Gents, do something this week to make yourself better looking. Working out, getting a haircut, clothes, you name it! Go for it.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
Asking for it. I don't care if you fail. Just...DO SOMETHING. You can make excuses all you want when you try and fail, but I don't want excuses for being a lazy ass.Mindgamez said:
Alright man, that's good. I'll do it until I get a number and if I don't well, too bad. I'm giving myself the minimum of, let's say, five number closes.
Should you do a new thread for this? I think that it would be a good idea.
Oh! And for the bonus challenge, I'm getting a new hairwax to do hairspikes. I'll be more appealing and noticeable I hope! What's so cool about hair is that it's so unique for everyone. Long hair ftw. Anyway, i suggest everyone to buy gel or wax to style their hair and give it some personality. I'll also
try to practice breakdance more to stay in shape.
Should you do a new thread for this? I think that it would be a good idea.
Oh! And for the bonus challenge, I'm getting a new hairwax to do hairspikes. I'll be more appealing and noticeable I hope! What's so cool about hair is that it's so unique for everyone. Long hair ftw. Anyway, i suggest everyone to buy gel or wax to style their hair and give it some personality. I'll also
try to practice breakdance more to stay in shape.
Jack Wealthy
Master Don Juan
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I'll probably finish this one before the other one. Start a new thread nova, noone else start one because I think he should.
Yep, I've got 10 hours to get 4 names. Fvckityfvckfvck. Not hard unless it's alternating between raining and monsoon style winds. Nah, not that bad, just not walking 40 minutes for something I could do masturbating. I'm going into town later though, even if I have to approach in front of my grandma I'll slay this.
Yep, I've got 10 hours to get 4 names. Fvckityfvckfvck. Not hard unless it's alternating between raining and monsoon style winds. Nah, not that bad, just not walking 40 minutes for something I could do masturbating. I'm going into town later though, even if I have to approach in front of my grandma I'll slay this.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Damn! I wish I could join you guys so bad, NDJ told me about this on Facebook but the situation doesn't allow me to, all the best guys! oh and yeah get a fresh haircut, I got completed by atleast 3 girls today...totally worth it I tell you, and make it unique, like me, I got waves on my head and I get showered with compliments from guys asking me how to get them( a process that took me a year!) and ladies admiring their sleekness. Just do something that will be your trademark, it gets funny when other guys try to get waves and people will be like " So now you doing Nino's Style?" So try something NEW!
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
I will start one when I get home
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
A summary of this week: I had a really bad start at first because i honestly could not make myself to talk to females that were strangers so when i got to friday i still had 0 girls so i decided to make sure that i will be going out somewhere everyday of this weekend so that i can get to the 10. I managed to get to talk to 10 girls and strange enough i still have approach anxiety so i hope that the next challenge will make it disappear.
NorwegianDJ
Master Don Juan
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Got 10 myself. Pretty much all of them were adults. Shame on me. Nova, put it up seperately.
The Libertine
Don Juan
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Got a couple today so I'm over 10- I asked for a cigarette from some freshmen girls.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.