"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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High School Don Juan Bootcamp: Week 1 - Hit The Ground Running

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Welcome to the first week of High School Don Juan Bootcamp. Now, if any of you have seen how the military does bootcamps, you know how the first week goes. Well, good news...

I'm not changing that!

We are here to hit the ground running. Now, this camp WILL make you better. Faster and stronger are matter of opinions and optional. You WILL be highly motivated, dedicated, educated individuals. You WILL be given "goals," some of which might seem unattainable. However...They aren't.

You also have trainers each week. That trainer will post their "goal" for you guys (and any gals...) but they will also be available for help. This isn't my first bootcamp. I am available through PM or in this thread if needbe. But, be willing to WORK.

Now, let's get ready to rock this place!

You "goal" for the week is a simple one.

- Go and talk to ATLEAST 10 females you do not currently know and, at the very minimum, get their name (first name is ok.) Report back with a brief detail of how it went.

Now, by "do not know," it means exactly what it says. Not someone you have spoken to once before, not someone you used to talk to a few years ago in your younger days. It means, you have not had ANY social interation with them before.

Also, if you experience ANY of the following symptons of fear: sweating, rapid breathing, elevated heart rate, dry mouth, pit stains, ect, GOOD! Wipe yourself off, drink some water, and keep going.

Make me proud!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mindgamez said:
Alright bro.
I'M READY FOR THIS!!
LET'S DO THIS!!

NO EXCUSES, JUST DO IT.
Hahaha love the attitude. I picture Joe's voice from family guy in my head.

Props VM, good start to the boot camp.
 

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I actually expected something easier.

I had a nice realization 10 minutes ago.
I was walking home. I spot a girl and her dad. She seems to be too young, so I have no intent to approach her. However, when they come close, I see that she's probably 1 year younger than me. We smiled, eye contact and nodded. Her dad said Hi and I reciprocated.

This might seem like a failure ( although I'd like to defend myself with unreadiness :p ), but it made me realize how I can approach anyone for this challenge. Before, I felt as if I had to go out of my way to find new people. However, I dont! Straight after, I saw a man in a car, a man walking out of his house, a woman and her kids, a man driving towards me. I could've approached all of them and started a short conversation. Awesome realization. Will definitely complete with no worries after this.

EDIT: Ah, it's females. Still!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Week 1 not bad. There are at least 10 chicks at my school that I don't know. Time to start. :D
 

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Idk if it counts but here's my first one- I'm riding the bus and this girl I barely know gets on some stops later. We talk for a bit and on the next stop a friend of hers gets in. I had to get off at the next stop which was literally 200 meters away so I didn't have time to make a conversation so I just said "Hey I'm Libertine" and shook her hand. Still I would do 10 of these to complete the week but I have no problem with meeting new people (I think)
 

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I guess this is just daygaming at the streets, or do parties/school also count?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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mind said:
I guess this is just daygaming at the streets, or do parties/school also count?
Those count. I don't care WHERE you talk to them, just the fact that you actually talk to them.
 

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mind said:
I guess this is just daygaming at the streets, or do parties/school also count?
They all count, you just gotta meet em.

Went to the mall for 20 minutes after school today. Turns out high school girls don't go to the mall right after school on a monday. Still, there were plenty of 20-somethings that I could have opened and didn't. But that's why I'm in a bootcamp. I will go attempt to meet girls every day this week.

Also going to a college town on Friday to take a tour and visit a friend. I'll probably get 10 there but I'm not gonna wait that long.
 

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Ahhhh cool, well then I have almost completed it I think.
I'm 16 myself but I know a greek guy that studies here from 21, and he had a very relaxed party yesterday(we have small holidays) and I just talked to a lot of girls, I also made out with a HB8 that was a few years older than me so I was really pleased.

Also today in a free hour during school, I saw a really cute girl sitting alone so I thought why not make a talk with her. Most Girls turn out to be really open if you just randomly open to them. By the way it is/was really funny to see for me that when you're not specifically search for them you will find a lot more girls to approach haha.

And @Nolimit The idea here is just to make small talks so you could say whatever you want, if you're thinking it's too embarassing to say weird stuff, you could just say things like: how are you today, or hey what's up. I think most high school girls will respond to this.
 

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novaknight said:
Crud, this will be hard to do with midterms.
Any tips for this?
Yeah. Mall, lunch room, library, anywhere. If you see a girl that you want to talk to, go talk!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's pretty hard to get around in the burbs...school's the only place. But I guess this will be a nice challenge.
 

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I'll try some on Wednesday at the subway, and some more on Saturday at the mall. My buddy will also do it. I'll tell you guys how it goes!

And lool AlexLefty haha

And nolimit, just ask the way you want. I'll personally go direct and ask her name after I said Hi. It's not too hard I hope.
 

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I'm starting new electives tomorrow so this is easy. i think ill aim for 20 or so
 

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Remember brothers, you will get out of this retreat as much as you put into it. So go make a fool of yourself and have a great time talking to ladies! You'll only become a much better person!
 
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One down, nine more to go! Met her on my way home on the bus. She got on the bus and I noticed she was pretty cute, so I sat down next to her and started a conversation. I could tell she was into me, but anyways I got her name and added her on facebook. Now we're gonna hang out soon.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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