Have you ever had a hunch about someone? Have you ever decided wether or not you like someone before you have spoken a single word to them? Have you ever gotten the feeling that someone just lied to you? That's body language sub-conciously giving you messages folks. If you have been at this site for a while and haven't really got much out of it then body language is a great place to start. Let me elaborate.
Firstly, the mind and the body are linked on a sub-concious level. Up to this point all the experiences that you have been through have built up to a degree and these experiences reflect your confidence and well-being through your body. Your posture, your speed, even your tone of voice (all though we are leaving that out for now), these plus a few things combine together to create your first impression. If you don't allready know, first impressions are ussually what makes or breaks your chance with a girl, first impressions are everything! After a first impression a girl decides:
Are you confident?
Are you attractive?
Are you succesfull? (this IS transmitted through body language)
Are you comfortable?
Are you happy?
Are you desperate?
These things are all transmitted to her subconciously. MOST of this is transmitted through your body language. 60-80% of all communication is transmitted to people through their body language. Isn't that amazing? That means people have an 80% idea of wether or not they like you just by LOOKING at you. A girl is 80% sure she wants to **** you after just LOOKING at you.
Now this is why you can't get a girl without good bodylanguage: you see those decisions up above? A girl makes her mind up about those things, and she sticks with those choices. Their like light switches. They are either ON or OFF, there is NO middle ground. Once its off its ****en hard to turn on and not worth the effort, better not **** it up!
So now you know the importance let me get you in to some stuff you can improve straight away! Make sure you practice each thing for a while before moving on, you want to be doing it unconciously.
Your hands/fidgeting
A thing i see around a lot is people fidget and play with things. NEVER and i repeat NEVER put your hands in your pocket, it just subconciously reeks of insecurity. Dont swing your hands around when you walk, keep them by your side and move them naturally, not all over the place. Don't do over exxagerated hand motions, slow - subtle hand gestures work best. Never play with anything like a pen, a bit of bark, etc. Keep your hands empty, next to your side. Not clenched in fists, just leave em hangin there.
Your head
Stop looking at the ground. Get your chin up and excersice that vision. Have it so high that you feel stupid. When you walk past someone looking at the ground it is just telling them you want to walk past them and have no confrontation what so ever. Look up, explore the world. Also, when you look at something move your head SLOWLY, fast movements of the head looks nervous and worried. Nice and slow head movements. Practice practice practice.
Your size
Take up some room. This is makes you look extremely confident and alpha. When your sitting spreeeeead your legs, if theres a table or a chair then chuck ya leg up on it. Take up all the room ya can. Stick your chest out (be careful with this, it can start to look stupid). When your standing move your legs a little wider and take up more room, have your weight equally on both feet. Take up more room and watch everyone notice you more.
Your speed
SLOW DOWN! Nice and slow movements, make sure they are all the same though. No point walking slow and turning around quickly. It should look as if the world is waiting for you, that's what you want. As if you can control the fabric of time itself. You appear so calm and detatched, girls just love it. Take bigger steps.
You dress
It isn't exactly body language, but had to do with first impressions and im not going to make a whole post on it. I don't really care what you wear, just make sure that it isnt cheap ****, buy some good clothes, you know what looks good. I dont want this to turn in to a debate about what looks best. I will say one thing, try to stay in lighter colours, it gives people a subconcious reaction to you and you stand out more. Dark colours are still useful if you contrast it with lighter colours.
That's all i really have to say. Learn the above and you will reap the rewards. I want you all to know that this isn't an exscuse to 'stand in the corner and look cool'. Body language wont do it all for you but it will do ALOT for you if you locate your ****. The good news is that your improved body language will naturally give you more confidence.
Also, check this out:
"The pick-up doesn't start when you talk to her, it starts when you get up in the morning"
Meaning, the second you get out of bed to when you see her is going to have an effect on your success. Man, you NEED to be having a good day, make sure you are always in a good mood and getting the **** done you said you where going to do.
Oh well im out, next part is on tonality.
Firstly, the mind and the body are linked on a sub-concious level. Up to this point all the experiences that you have been through have built up to a degree and these experiences reflect your confidence and well-being through your body. Your posture, your speed, even your tone of voice (all though we are leaving that out for now), these plus a few things combine together to create your first impression. If you don't allready know, first impressions are ussually what makes or breaks your chance with a girl, first impressions are everything! After a first impression a girl decides:
Are you confident?
Are you attractive?
Are you succesfull? (this IS transmitted through body language)
Are you comfortable?
Are you happy?
Are you desperate?
These things are all transmitted to her subconciously. MOST of this is transmitted through your body language. 60-80% of all communication is transmitted to people through their body language. Isn't that amazing? That means people have an 80% idea of wether or not they like you just by LOOKING at you. A girl is 80% sure she wants to **** you after just LOOKING at you.
Now this is why you can't get a girl without good bodylanguage: you see those decisions up above? A girl makes her mind up about those things, and she sticks with those choices. Their like light switches. They are either ON or OFF, there is NO middle ground. Once its off its ****en hard to turn on and not worth the effort, better not **** it up!
So now you know the importance let me get you in to some stuff you can improve straight away! Make sure you practice each thing for a while before moving on, you want to be doing it unconciously.
Your hands/fidgeting
A thing i see around a lot is people fidget and play with things. NEVER and i repeat NEVER put your hands in your pocket, it just subconciously reeks of insecurity. Dont swing your hands around when you walk, keep them by your side and move them naturally, not all over the place. Don't do over exxagerated hand motions, slow - subtle hand gestures work best. Never play with anything like a pen, a bit of bark, etc. Keep your hands empty, next to your side. Not clenched in fists, just leave em hangin there.
Your head
Stop looking at the ground. Get your chin up and excersice that vision. Have it so high that you feel stupid. When you walk past someone looking at the ground it is just telling them you want to walk past them and have no confrontation what so ever. Look up, explore the world. Also, when you look at something move your head SLOWLY, fast movements of the head looks nervous and worried. Nice and slow head movements. Practice practice practice.
Your size
Take up some room. This is makes you look extremely confident and alpha. When your sitting spreeeeead your legs, if theres a table or a chair then chuck ya leg up on it. Take up all the room ya can. Stick your chest out (be careful with this, it can start to look stupid). When your standing move your legs a little wider and take up more room, have your weight equally on both feet. Take up more room and watch everyone notice you more.
Your speed
SLOW DOWN! Nice and slow movements, make sure they are all the same though. No point walking slow and turning around quickly. It should look as if the world is waiting for you, that's what you want. As if you can control the fabric of time itself. You appear so calm and detatched, girls just love it. Take bigger steps.
You dress
It isn't exactly body language, but had to do with first impressions and im not going to make a whole post on it. I don't really care what you wear, just make sure that it isnt cheap ****, buy some good clothes, you know what looks good. I dont want this to turn in to a debate about what looks best. I will say one thing, try to stay in lighter colours, it gives people a subconcious reaction to you and you stand out more. Dark colours are still useful if you contrast it with lighter colours.
That's all i really have to say. Learn the above and you will reap the rewards. I want you all to know that this isn't an exscuse to 'stand in the corner and look cool'. Body language wont do it all for you but it will do ALOT for you if you locate your ****. The good news is that your improved body language will naturally give you more confidence.
Also, check this out:
"The pick-up doesn't start when you talk to her, it starts when you get up in the morning"
Meaning, the second you get out of bed to when you see her is going to have an effect on your success. Man, you NEED to be having a good day, make sure you are always in a good mood and getting the **** done you said you where going to do.
Oh well im out, next part is on tonality.