"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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High protein with cardio?

Haboob

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What would be the result of a high protein intake while doing a lot of cardio? I'm just wondering because I would like to gain but a lot of cardio is unavoidable for me.

Also, whats the best way to increase the size of the lower arms?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Warboss Alex

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You can definitely gain while doing a lot of cardio although the type of cardio is important. If you're a runner forget it, if you just walk a lot then it's perfectly possible. You will simply have to eat more, which is never a bad thing.

The way to add size to any part of the arms is to add mass to the whole body. You cannot isolate certain muscles effectively without the rest also growing (especially not small muscles like arms).
 

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Warboss Alex said:
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The way to add size to any part of the arms is to add mass to the whole body. You cannot isolate certain muscles effectively without the rest also growing (especially not small muscles like arms).

Haboob, this is the counter-intuitive reality that you must learn to accept and work with. Your body grows as a unit.

I can't tell you how many years I squandered on curls and only managed to attain less mass than I have in the last year simply devoting myself to a simple regimen of compound lifts while gradually increasing the weight.
 

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Ok thanks guys I get the point. The only way to grow is to grow the whole body. I should have known that.

So I do a lot of running. Are you telling me that it is then impossible to gain?
 

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insidious said:
Haboob, this is the counter-intuitive reality that you must learn to accept and work with. Your body grows as a unit.
I don't see how this is counter-intuitive.

Why WOULDN'T muscles grow as a unit? Why would a giant chest and a teeny tiny back make any sense? Why have giant hooks (arms) when the the crane is out of order (back and legs)?

If anything this is the intuitive common sense part that got overridden by all 'your' dumb friends and magazines that give you 4 exercises a day for biceps.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ruckus, point taken -
Counter-intuitive in the respect that a misconception prevails that big biceps or big forearms = arm exercises.

The reality here is a bit more complicated, you don't get the biggest arms possible by working them directly. That is the part I'm saying is counter-intuitive.

Maybe it's as simple as a little education.
 
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