High interest women that are ok VS flakey women you dig

[phloyd]

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that I'm a little frustrated right now with the women that I like and am interested in dating.

It seems these are always the toughest ones to get ahold of on the phone to set up a date or just general flakeyness overall. I realize its just a numbers game and that at some point one will come about that I'm interested in that makes things easy but it seems those are few and far between.

Now at the same time there seem to be a few that are interested in me that always seem available, always answer the phone or call back but these are always the ones that I don't feel super attracted to.

I'm not sure if this makes sense to anybody or not and I know things will change in time. Just wondering if anybody else gets fed up with this situation or not.

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by phloyd
I guess the point I'm trying to make is that I'm a little frustrated right now with the women that I like and am interested in dating.

It seems these are always the toughest ones to get ahold of on the phone to set up a date or just general flakeyness overall. I realize its just a numbers game and that at some point one will come about that I'm interested in that makes things easy but it seems those are few and far between.

Now at the same time there seem to be a few that are interested in me that always seem available, always answer the phone or call back but these are always the ones that I don't feel super attracted to.

I'm not sure if this makes sense to anybody or not and I know things will change in time. Just wondering if anybody else gets fed up with this situation or not.

yeah but seriously why bother with the flakes dude?...why waste your precious energy and time on these types.

One day a good one will come along that has the best of both and NO flakiness.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

I get frustrated when someone I really like doesn't return my call or answer promptly. I get frustrated at myself for believing such a person would like me when infact she may be leading me on or doesn't care about it. I get frustrated if I don't do anything about it such as ignoring that person. I get frustrated if I hang on to that person like she's the only woman in the world and I let my body wither away waiting for her. I get frustrated because on that very night while I was waiting on the phone or the date, I could've met 1-2 women if I instead went around bar hopping or some random single scene.

Don't let your frustration take the best of you, fight it by doing something about it.

 

[Beginner1]

I will bet that the ones you are interested that continue flake out on you are the ones who the entire world would consider good looking.

The ones who are seen as just average looking are the ones who are usually more normal (not completely normal) but more grounded in reality.

Remember about this too, it is only natural to believe that we all want what we can not have and to really put what we can and do have in the back of our minds and not really be thankful for such things. So that also can be playing a big role.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Why not just focus your efforts on high interest level women that you dig?

 

[phloyd]

All good points. The thing is I don't honestly think I've treated the ones I have a higher interest in any different than the ones I have a moderate interest in.

Example: Lets say you meet 10 women and get their phone #s. Now I'm sure your gonna be attracted initially at different levels so to speek with each of these women. It just seems that you can systematicly pursue each one the same but the ones you dig the most almost are always the toughest to crack.

Good advice DonJuanMonk:"Don't let your frustration take the best of you, fight it by doing something about it"
I agree. Meeting more women seems to help

Good point Beginner1 about wanting what you can't have. I think this may have a lot to do with it. It seems for me I tend to become more attracted to the girls who are more of a challange then those who make things too easy yet there seems to be a fine line to this such as pursuing a girl too far and scarring her off, oneitis, Etc.

Francisco d'Anconia: "Why not focus your efforts on high interest women that you dig?" Believe me, that is what I'm shooting for. As a cyclist I think you'll apriciate this. I've got a bike riding date this thursday with a woman that I'm digging right now. Nothing like getting your ride time in with an action date at the same time!