How do you distinguish? Because a lot of "high interest" signals I see in this forum can be applied to situations where a woman just saw me as a friend. In other words, yeah she had high interest (blew up my phone, initiated plans, moved plans to fit me in, etc.)---but high interest as a friend.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
High interest in you as a friend vs. High interest in you romantically
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
In2theGame
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I would say if she was open to something sexual with you. Maybe not right away but if she calls/texts you a lot and makes plans with you... are these leading to a physical interaction? If so, then proceed from there.Siragoos said:
VladPatton
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High interest friendship = movie, pizza, go home
High interest romantically = you bang the shıt outta her
High interest romantically = you bang the shıt outta her
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This is a tough question and it depends on a lot of variables such as....
* How hot is she? The hotter she is, the more trouble you are going to have playing your game right - because she for sure knows her game since she was 15 manipulating boys around her pretty fingers.
* Has she been exclusively spending private time with you one on one, and when she do, does she give you 100% of her attention (she doesn't look at her fUUCKEN iPhone every 25 seconds). If she every 'primps' her make-up in front of you, you are friendzoned most likely.
* Attention Whooring tendency - you will have to determine by nature if she is AW-proned.
* Go by her action and not what she says - has she initiated anything with you first (calls, texts, asking you to do something with her, touch you when you don't do it to her, etc)
* If you ignore her for a few days, does she initiate staying in touch with you. The ultimate test for me (oh yeah, we can give women sh!t test too!) to sort out if a woman is worth my time to pursue her further, is to give her the dangling carrot (go on a date or 2 with her to get her hooked on you if you have charm and game). Then ignore her after that and see if she reaches out to me - if not ever, then I move on to the next woman.
Sometimes you need the woman to WORK to know that she wants you and she WILL chase you if she realizes you HAVE OPTIONS. A lot of women are just pure ignorant - they want what they can't have, sure that is not the first time you heard that before. If a woman doesn't show some sign of chasing me after a date or two, I am not going to waste my time and money on her, period. This is my way of sorting out free-loaders and AW-proned women who are not into me 100%. Why waste your time?? Find options.
Also if I sniff her playing games on me (waiting a long time to reply back, mixed signals, what she says are not congruent, emotional BS), I NEXT her. Say I am picky and strict, but after 41 years, I am not wasting time and energy on immature girls in an adult meat suit. We have to TEACH women again what we men ARE THE PRIZE, and the only way to do so is to make them realize what they have lost by attempting to manipulate us. The more we start doing this, the more we will gain back our power as men.
FIND THE POWER TO WALK AWAY FROM WOMEN AT ANY TIME IN YOUR LIFE, and you will transform yourself into a true DJ.
Good luck.
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* How hot is she? The hotter she is, the more trouble you are going to have playing your game right - because she for sure knows her game since she was 15 manipulating boys around her pretty fingers.
* Has she been exclusively spending private time with you one on one, and when she do, does she give you 100% of her attention (she doesn't look at her fUUCKEN iPhone every 25 seconds). If she every 'primps' her make-up in front of you, you are friendzoned most likely.
* Attention Whooring tendency - you will have to determine by nature if she is AW-proned.
* Go by her action and not what she says - has she initiated anything with you first (calls, texts, asking you to do something with her, touch you when you don't do it to her, etc)
* If you ignore her for a few days, does she initiate staying in touch with you. The ultimate test for me (oh yeah, we can give women sh!t test too!) to sort out if a woman is worth my time to pursue her further, is to give her the dangling carrot (go on a date or 2 with her to get her hooked on you if you have charm and game). Then ignore her after that and see if she reaches out to me - if not ever, then I move on to the next woman.
Sometimes you need the woman to WORK to know that she wants you and she WILL chase you if she realizes you HAVE OPTIONS. A lot of women are just pure ignorant - they want what they can't have, sure that is not the first time you heard that before. If a woman doesn't show some sign of chasing me after a date or two, I am not going to waste my time and money on her, period. This is my way of sorting out free-loaders and AW-proned women who are not into me 100%. Why waste your time?? Find options.
Also if I sniff her playing games on me (waiting a long time to reply back, mixed signals, what she says are not congruent, emotional BS), I NEXT her. Say I am picky and strict, but after 41 years, I am not wasting time and energy on immature girls in an adult meat suit. We have to TEACH women again what we men ARE THE PRIZE, and the only way to do so is to make them realize what they have lost by attempting to manipulate us. The more we start doing this, the more we will gain back our power as men.
FIND THE POWER TO WALK AWAY FROM WOMEN AT ANY TIME IN YOUR LIFE, and you will transform yourself into a true DJ.
Good luck.
Exodus
Whatabout text messaging and if she just continues to continues to reply? I know, text game on this site is not really advocated but I'm from the younger generation that are stuck on their phones 24/7. I know my game and will always make sure she is one to end it or keep things short and sharp or for organising dates. Recently a new plate of mine, I thought I'd try something out - keep messaging if I receive a reply. To this date, this back and forth just keeps going even if she replies briefly. Surely a chick sooner or later loses interest will stop replying? I'm starting to get bored of this amusement now 
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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If you text back endlessly, you are on your way to being friendzoned.Tomo said:Whatabout text messaging and if she just continues to continues to reply? I know, text game on this site is not really advocated but I'm from the younger generation that are stuck on their phones 24/7. I know my game and will always make sure she is one to end it or keep things short and sharp or for organising dates. Recently a new plate of mine, I thought I'd try something out - keep messaging if I receive a reply. To this date, this back and forth just keeps going even if she replies briefly. Surely a chick sooner or later loses interest will stop replying? I'm starting to get bored of this amusement now
Text is only used to set up for a future meeting in person. A woman NEEDS to miss you to want you. Texting every day loses that mysteriousness in who you are and you just friendzoned yourself. You failed to let her hamster brain run wild. Nice job.
Haha loosen up a bit mate if you'd read my post properly. I wanted to know WHY a chick will continuously reply - not to be told things I already know and do. Case in close she is NOT one of my girls I'm seeing properly nor one I had any intention of making hence why I wanted to see how long this back and forth texting would continue on for.GotED? said:
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For as long as you're giving her attention. Too much, and she's responding for the sake of responding. And then you're in the friendzone.Tomo said:
A woman can give you these IOI's all day. But if she goes out with you and bangs you and shows up to your dates, that's romantic. Remove the sex, and then you're just friends. Extra points if she flakes!
Case closed.
Uncharted
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You HAVE to try to escalate. Touch her (kino) and try to kiss her.
You will immediately know if she has no interest in you. The sooner you do this, the better. The longer you delay, the more she puts you into the "friend" bucket.
You will immediately know if she has no interest in you. The sooner you do this, the better. The longer you delay, the more she puts you into the "friend" bucket.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Uncharted
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Then she's not interested, or her interest is extremely low. Pull away and see if she gives any chase. If so, re-engage, kino, escalate, etc.teddy said:
Worst case, just give up. She's just one of many.