"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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High interest, horrible communication

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normally I take poor texting as a strongly significant sign of low interest.

however there's a girl from one of my classes who showed very high interest. I ran into her outside the food trucks one day and we shared a quick lunch. after class she approached me and I asked her out, exchanged phone numbers.

only thing? she shows high interest in her texts/facebook messages, except that she takes a long time to reply and doesn't really have that much to say.

Im thinking this either means she isnt interested, or that she's simply very busy and does not spend a lot of time with superficial things like texting and facebook. if it's the second, then I value that a lot for LTR material. She's really gorgeous and has a great personality / smart etc. Im confused on how to play this one.

I think I'll wait until a week into the next term and shoot her a text: "so are you still keen on getting together for lunch some time?" That should give a pretty clear answer. anyone have some other ideas or think I should abandon mission?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dosquito said:
I think I'll wait until a week into the next term and shoot her a text: "so are you still keen on getting together for lunch some time?" That should give a pretty clear answer. anyone have some other ideas or think I should abandon mission?
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No, man, C'mon. Don't ask her if she's "keen" on getting together for lunch. Sheesh. That's just weak. If it's lunch you want, tell her "Let's get lunch at so-so and so restaurant at so-so and so time". Period. It slims down her opportunity to shoot you down, it doesn't feel too high pressure and she doesn't have to start thinking of the logistics giving her time to wuss out.
 
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Lol yea youre right man I would never actually send that actual text, I just woke up.

But yeah I like what you're saying. Ill ask her if she wants to go to the lunch trucks again on day1 or day2. no acceptance or counter offer, no interest. i got a kinda weird feeling about this girl + other plates to think about so im totally indifferent at this point. shes also same age and generally i prefer girls 1 to 2 years younger
 
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skinnyguy said:
stop texting and get her in your bedroom.
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Listen to this man
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Stop asking her things already... You should assume that she is incapable of making a decision and just tell her straight

'I am eating at the lunch trucks tomorrow at x oclock, you should join me'

she either shows up, or not...
 
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Dude, make a definite date. If she flakes out or gives an excuse with no counteroffer, drop her ass.

The only real IOI is if she shows up. Anything else is fluff.

Case closed. It's not that hard.
 
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