"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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high IL, but no call back

MidnightResistance

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Alright...

so this chick I got the number of and who I see on semi regular basis is REALLY interested in me.
But, whenever I call her, her phone is either switched off or one of her friends answers it, says she's tied up at the moment and she will call me back later...which she never does.
But when I see her in person again, she has high Interest Levels.

I must have called her 4 times now and this has happened.

If it wasn't for the high interest and she's an HB9 I would have moved on by now.

The problem is that she has a horse.
So she has to go to the stables every night and day and sort it out....:rolleyes: which is really getting in the way of me getting her in the sack, let along getting a date!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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first of all, what did you happen to say to this broad when you called her? and what was the frequency in which you did it? answer me those questions, like that **** sink in and then Ill tell yoiu whatsup.
 

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Having her friends answer the phone so that she doesn't have to talk to you is the oldest trick in the book. Her interest level is not high, as it has failed the litmus test: she does not make herself easily available for you to contact her.

If she liked you, she'd call you back.
 

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Originally posted by MidnightResistance
Alright...

so this chick I got the number of and who I see on semi regular basis is REALLY interested in me.
But, whenever I call her, her phone is either switched off or one of her friends answers it, says she's tied up at the moment and she will call me back later...which she never does.
But when I see her in person again, she has high Interest Levels.

I must have called her 4 times now and this has happened.

If it wasn't for the high interest and she's an HB9 I would have moved on by now.

The problem is that she has a horse.
So she has to go to the stables every night and day and sort it out....:rolleyes: which is really getting in the way of me getting her in the sack, let along getting a date!

high IL, but no call back is an oxymoron, no such thing. high IL= call back, or better yet, she answers her phone. Period.

It always amazes me how guys make and find every excuse for the girl they're into when she starts flakin' and blowing them off. Believe me, if her IL was high enough, she'd be riddin' your horse.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by MidnightResistance
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But, whenever I call her, her phone is either switched off or one of her friends answers it, says she's tied up at the moment and she will call me back later...which she never does...
So what exactly has she done to prove to you that she has a high IL?
 

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sometimes some guys misinterpret signal given from girls....
Like in your case u maby thought she has High interest in u , but that would meen that she would have called u back after ur 4 calls.... My oppinnion is that u move on, its clear that she doesnt want to meet you.....
 

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She sounds like an attention wh0re. When your around she likes the male attention, but when you're not, she could care less. It's happened to me before, just put her in a room with other eligable guys and watch her ignore you....
 

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Re: Re: high IL, but no call back

Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
high IL, but no call back is an oxymoron, no such thing. high IL= call back, or better yet, she answers her phone. Period.

It always amazes me how guys make and find every excuse for the girl they're into when she starts flakin' and blowing them off. Believe me, if her IL was high enough, she'd be riddin' your horse.
Exactly, he nailed it. Forget her. Ignore her. She's making a fool out of you while her and her girlfriends laugh at you behind your back. Don't call her once more. Funnily enough, if you do this, don't be surprised if she calls you.

If so, blow her off, it's not interest on her part, I guarantee it.
 

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It should be known from here on out, that a girl who is interested in seeing you for whatever reason will either try to get to know you by her calling you and asking about your life briefly.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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drZaius09

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Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
It should be known from here on out, that a girl who is interested in seeing you for whatever reason will either try to get to know you by her calling you and asking about your life briefly.
No no no no no. A girl who is interested will allow YOU to call THEM and ask about THEIR life.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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A woman I had lunch with today wrote her name, number and email address on a napkin and gave it to me with a pen and another napkin. Think she was interested? :D
 

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what makes you think she is"REALLY" interested in you?
 

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Beware...

I sense an Attention Wh0re in your midst!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Fatality
what makes you think she is"REALLY" interested in you?
Because before lunch I was riding in a breakaway with my cycling club and she hauls @ss to catch up to us and yells "Hey Francisco, remember me? We met a couple of weeks ago on a the bike trail!" She does this in front of all my buds, social proof without me doing a d@mn thing. Want me to post what happens when I get back from her place for dinner tonight?

Geesh... Wannabees.... :rolleyes:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Because before lunch I was riding in a breakaway with my cycling club and she hauls @ss to catch up to us and yells "Hey Francisco, remember me? We met a couple of weeks ago on a the bike trail!" She does this in front of all my buds, social proof without me doing a d@mn thing. Want me to post what happens when I get back from her place for dinner tonight?

Geesh... Wannabees.... :rolleyes:
I was talking to the thread starter...
 

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Midnight Resistance... are you naming yourself after the old arcade game of the same name? It was very good.

Anyway, on to your problem:


If a girl gets her friends to answer the phone, and tell you that she's busy and will call you back, she DEFINITELY does not want to talk to you.


She has high interest when you meet her again because:

1. You really don't know the signs of high interest, and thus incorrectly say to yourself "hey, she's talking to me. Therefore she must be interested."

2. She is really bad at being straight up about what she really feels about you(welcome to ******). What she really wants to do is escape, but she can't beacuse she is bad about being up front.

3. She is an attention whor, which is defined as a girl who leads numerous guys on but does not deliver any committment. If this is true, she's trying to see how long she can bait you. So far, its 4 calls. Maybe she's betting on 10.

I'd suggest that you stop talking to her completely. Delete and forget her phone number and other contact info, and don't make her acquaintence in public.
However, since you seem new to this game, I suggest you do the following:

Next time you see her, walk right by her in plain sight without even glancing. If she's interested she will stop you and talk. If not, she will not. That might prove it to you.

All in all, this one's a lost cause.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
My mistake.
In your case, I wouldn't be surprised if this so called "woman" was a fully functioning transvestite....

I just can't see a real woman coming on to a wuss bag like you.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by jprjrjr
In your case, I wouldn't be surprised if this so called "woman" was a fully functioning transvestite....

I just can't see a real woman coming on to a wuss bag like you.
Nice to see you again "Chuckles." Still having the same (lack of) success with women as usual I see. Please tell me you aren't going to beg the DJs of the forum to post their pics for you to drool over like you usually do. Your whole metrosexual thing is getting a bit boring. Go have a shot of testosterone on me and chill.

Welcome back!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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