"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ok cliff noting this:

I have previously bartended (hence the name) at a night club. Quick/Slinging drink atmosphere.

No longer work there.

Interviewing at the highest class establishment in the area. The only triple diamond winner w/e. You get the point. Bills for food go over $100 if you buy more than a salad type of place.

So, first interview this wendesday. I gotta learn some wine stuff, some old ppl drinks (i'll take care of this), and what not before the interview.

Anyone have any suggestions? Probably going to wear a suit since the place requires coats for men. Really dont have that much interview experience. Things have really just fallen in my lap work-wise.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Run to the bookstore this weekend and skim through the book "Knock 'em Dead" by Martin Yates.
 

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I'll have to do that...I assume its an interviewing tips book
 

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Originally posted by The Bartender
Interviewing at the highest class establishment in the area. The only triple diamond winner w/e. You get the point. Bills for food go over $100 if you buy more than a salad type of place.

So, first interview this wendesday. I gotta learn some wine stuff, some old ppl drinks (i'll take care of this), and what not before the interview.

Anyone have any suggestions? Probably going to wear a suit since the place requires coats for men. Really dont have that much interview experience. Things have really just fallen in my lap work-wise.
Be ready to answer some weird questions of all kinds:
what would do if...<insert a big trouble here>?
How would you resolve this.<..>?
What's your weak side?
What was you biggest mistake at work?
Etc
Be ready to answer them with somethig positive, don't admit
anything negative.

For some interviews it might be very heplful to learn as much as possible about the company. Did you actually go there? (yeah order something less than a salad then) Observe how they work.. what they do.. and what they don't.
Lear the history of the place and be ready to insert some comment about it - you will stand out from others.

Also they might ask... so, why do you choose <us>? Ideally you are supposed to give them not only "..... to apply my skills and to benefit...blah blah" but also give them some specific regarding why they need your skills, why you skills mathes their requirements.

Have you ever taken a personaluty test? They are easy, but still to have to do well. Be ready to write down a bunch of silly questions like "You feel talking small items from work can be acceptabe Yes\No"
 

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al77 - great info thanks. But i think on the testing part...its discriminatory to do personality test on applicants unless an offer to work has been hired. Anywho, i'd take one if they asked. Not like I am gonna sue and have no chance at getting the job.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by The Bartender
I'll have to do that...I assume its an interviewing tips book
Not just tips but also suggestions for answers to some of the toughest qustions that are usually asked during interviews.
 

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Originally posted by The Bartender
al77 - great info thanks. But i think on the testing part...its discriminatory to do personality test on applicants unless an offer to work has been hired. Anywho, i'd take one if they asked. Not like I am gonna sue and have no chance at getting the job.
You mean it is ok to do personality test after you are hired (or they agreed to hire you)?

I have a friend who has done like 80 of such tests. When he was looking for a job in most interviews he had, he had to take the personality test. I have no idea what they are thinking...I am not familiar with "legal" part of this test.
 

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This is how I interpret my "Employment Law" book on the subject:

Screening tests like such should never have any questions which even hint towards seperating out a certain group of ppl (an example my book uses is questioning on religious beliefs or even cultural values.) Someones answer might show a certain affiliation which, if hired for or against, is considered discrimination.

So in short, personality tests need to be extremely careful because courts have awarded for tests which are reasonably "inappropriate".
 

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Originally posted by The Bartender
This is how I interpret my "Employment Law" book on the subject:

Screening tests like such should never have any questions which even hint towards seperating out a certain group of ppl (an example my book uses is questioning on religious beliefs or even cultural values.) Someones answer might show a certain affiliation which, if hired for or against, is considered discrimination.

So in short, personality tests need to be extremely careful because courts have awarded for tests which are reasonably "inappropriate".
I double checked - my friend seem an expert on those tests - he took more than 100 and he said he took almost all of them on the very first interview. Just be ready to take the test! I.e. browse through a book that cover how to take them.
 

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Gonna run up to Barnes and Nobles to skim it over at the mall before I go to see The Longest Yard w/ Adam Sandler.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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