High body count make you lose the ability to emotionally connect with women

[tesla8520]

Is there a way for us men, as well as women, to lose the ability to emotionally connect after a specific body count?

If so, at what point did that happen for you?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Is there a way for us men, as well as women, to lose the ability to emotionally connect after a specific body count?

If so, at what point did that happen for you?

Haven't noticed it. Men and women are wired differently.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

There are probably studies on this. If I had to guess, I would say women would have dificulties after 4-5 partners. I dont believe it affects men (at least, not the same way as women), I believe thats a myth.

 

[The Duke]

I don't believe it has effected my ability to bond. It has made be pickier on who i take seriously.

 

[Hal9000]

I wouldn't say my more plentiful times made it more difficult to connect emotionally with women but it definitely made it harder to settle down with just one sexually.

 

[BaronOfHair]

There are probably studies on this

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The Darker Side of Hooking Up

Research on the link between promiscuity and mental health.

www.psychologytoday.com

Doubtless, we can quibble about methodologies. The evidence we DO have indicates men can bed quite a few women, before he starts having difficulty attaching

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

It depends. If a dude keeps switching partners because the lady isn't qualified for a LTR, then no.

But if a dude bails when the relationship gets a bit dicey, then yes.

Relationships are hard work and both modern men and women tend to bail with they get dicey.

Side effect of hook up culture.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Men are hardwired to have multiple partners or harem in case of certain circumstances were to arise so no, we’d still be able to bond with a specific quality woman of our choosing if we screen and vet her properly.

 

[BeExcellent]

Studies consistently show that promiscuity negatively affects the ability to pair bond. Part of that arises from sexual novelty and desire for new "strange" and part of it derives from the disillusionment of not having expectations met. That's a boiled down view.

It is an adverse effect on both men and women. You can Google the topic and get lots of research on this topic.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Talk of feminism and body count on a seduction sight.

 

[The Duke]

it definitely made it harder to settle down with just one sexually.

You think that will ever go away?

 

[tesla8520]

At what point in your life did you begin to feel that the body count had reached such a high level that it was starting to create problems of deep connection with women?

 

[BaronOfHair]

At what point in your life did you begin to feel that the body count had reached such a high level that it was starting to create problems of deep connection with women?

Already had that difficulty, when my body count was only 1. With us men, this is typically symptomatic of difficulties being social more generally

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

This is one of those chicken and egg scenarios.

Do you have intimacy issues because of high body count?

Or do you have high body count because of intimacy issues?

 

[Travel memoir21]

Already had that difficulty, when my body count was only 1. With us men, this is typically symptomatic of difficulties being social more generally

One is one too many which is why I preach that Men should forget about women for a while, take a long break or hiatus from women and work on their inner game and themselves if they want a long term relationship. There’s a lot to internalize and one of those practices is the spiritual and finding meaning and enjoyment beyond getting poon.

 

[plumber]

One is one too many which is why I preach that Men should forget about women for a while, take a long break or hiatus from women and work on their inner game and themselves if they want a long term relationship. There’s a lot to internalize and one of those practices is the spiritual and finding meaning and enjoyment beyond getting poon.

this is wrong and right at the same time. accept vs adjust.

 

[Pandora]

I am constantly haunted by ghosts of partners past. I feel so bad for screwing over the girls I slept with. Most girls that sleep with you actually like you. When you dont date them ( assuming that you have a higher smv) it messes them up a little.

Many girls cried because I would not commit. I didnt even smash that many girls before marriage ( 49 partners) but you still leave a trail of broken hearts and lowered self esteem.

If I could go back I would only smash sluts or hookers. I would save the love making to girls that I wanted to commit to for the long term. I would avoid casual sex because you end up alpha widowing a few girls a long the way.

Higher SMV girls also hurt me too but I am able to get over it better.

 

[BadBoy89]

For a man to say "I cannot connect with women because I've slept with too many hot women in their 20s", is probably the most ridiculous thing I've heard.

Now for a man to say "I cannot connect with women because I've slept with too many older women, single mothers, overweight women or ugly women", is probably the most sanest thing I've heard.

Whether a man gets messed up sleeping with too many women depends on the woman's sexual market value. Anything hot and young, he'll be fine. Anything else, he may be in trouble.

 

[Pandora]

Ive heard Caleb Jones state research shows that once a man hits a certain amount of partners he can no longer be faithful. I find this to be true. If you amass a lot of sexual partners it is because you have built certain habits. It is very difficult to turn off these habits once you get into a relationship.

It is difficult to turn off spinning plates once you get married. You only have seduction skills and very little relationship skills. I find my self wanting to NEXT my wife sometimes and go get a new one just like I did when I was single. As a seduction artist you often find yourself nexting too early at any sign of difficulty.

Being a womanizer comes with consequences. Sex is never casual. It always has spiritual or mental consequences however small.

 

[Clockwerk50]

This is the same question as your previous thread, whether a “high body count” causes loss of emotional connection, just restated with different wording.