Long Time Lurker/Reader first time poster. I Don't know where to begin so im going to tell it best as is. Perhaps i can get advice to change for the better.
Im not looking for sympathy,just advice so please bear with me.
Im 22 and im just in this lifestlye slump it seems. Probably from lack of motivation, low drive, low self esteem and a general feeling of depression being depressed all the time which has been a problem for me since i was 16, and i have been unable to change things around for the better. Its like i want to,the drive and need and want to change is there,but i am unable too for some reason. Perhaps lack of confidence, poor social skills, etc. This is all aspects of life. Women,school, moving ahead etc. My mind is just always bogged down with negative thoughts/stuff all the time. I know the change must come from within, i need to take the steps to make it happen. Im not a virgin, but havent had sex or any kind of relations etc in well over a year.why this i dont know exactly, but it does have me concerned. But i am concerened about alot in my life. Im not at the level where i want to be, where i can look in the mirror and be happy with the person i see. I was basically a late bloomer. So yeah.thats where im coming from. I have no game really, and want to turn that around. When you are lazy,and unmotivated,low self esteem,it can be hard to turn things around.the last few years havent been the most pleasant times for me. so i think thats a good start to where im going.i know.your thinking afc etc.i just, i just somewhere in my own social development or whatever never learned or picked up on the skills to attract girls.i have looked at porn alot over the years,so that may have been a factor,plus being the weird kid growing up probably didnt help either in some ways.i want to change for the better.i am concerned about my own future.i mean,im exactly the "nice guy". amd im not even really the "bad boy".not that im in between.its like some sort of possible neutral personality thing.now on the bright side.....
theres this girl i met at work. and,well,shes,not to sound like im putting her on the pedestal,but shes awesome.shes i would say an 8,very sweet,pleasant demeanor about her,even if she is a little ditzy. I talk to her,and everything is very natural.Ideally,i would like to get her alone and well,you know. But the downside is she has a bf,and from what i see,isnt too happy with him it seems. And of course,i am in the dreaded freind zone. I am definitley not her emotional tampon though and i dont kiss up to her or kiss her ass or suplicate in any way.so there you go.I look forward to talking with all of you as time goes on.
Im not looking for sympathy,just advice so please bear with me.
Im 22 and im just in this lifestlye slump it seems. Probably from lack of motivation, low drive, low self esteem and a general feeling of depression being depressed all the time which has been a problem for me since i was 16, and i have been unable to change things around for the better. Its like i want to,the drive and need and want to change is there,but i am unable too for some reason. Perhaps lack of confidence, poor social skills, etc. This is all aspects of life. Women,school, moving ahead etc. My mind is just always bogged down with negative thoughts/stuff all the time. I know the change must come from within, i need to take the steps to make it happen. Im not a virgin, but havent had sex or any kind of relations etc in well over a year.why this i dont know exactly, but it does have me concerned. But i am concerened about alot in my life. Im not at the level where i want to be, where i can look in the mirror and be happy with the person i see. I was basically a late bloomer. So yeah.thats where im coming from. I have no game really, and want to turn that around. When you are lazy,and unmotivated,low self esteem,it can be hard to turn things around.the last few years havent been the most pleasant times for me. so i think thats a good start to where im going.i know.your thinking afc etc.i just, i just somewhere in my own social development or whatever never learned or picked up on the skills to attract girls.i have looked at porn alot over the years,so that may have been a factor,plus being the weird kid growing up probably didnt help either in some ways.i want to change for the better.i am concerned about my own future.i mean,im exactly the "nice guy". amd im not even really the "bad boy".not that im in between.its like some sort of possible neutral personality thing.now on the bright side.....
theres this girl i met at work. and,well,shes,not to sound like im putting her on the pedestal,but shes awesome.shes i would say an 8,very sweet,pleasant demeanor about her,even if she is a little ditzy. I talk to her,and everything is very natural.Ideally,i would like to get her alone and well,you know. But the downside is she has a bf,and from what i see,isnt too happy with him it seems. And of course,i am in the dreaded freind zone. I am definitley not her emotional tampon though and i dont kiss up to her or kiss her ass or suplicate in any way.so there you go.I look forward to talking with all of you as time goes on.