the a la menthe
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Hey,
Just got blown up by a chick for switching from being predictable to having a game plan,
I tried some moves i read ont the board thinking she would love it and she lost interest,
I have been appologising like a complete spanner for the last three days
till i came accross the archive file with the post about state of mind and justifying your reactions linked to enfatuation.
Done that and i feel much better like the whole "i will never meet anyone like this again" feeling has gone and i see her as just a person!
i cant beleive i compramised my respect to appologise for something that werent my fault...i am so angry and ashamed at myself!...i didnt want to loose her because i felt that she was the only person to really like me and we had a good connection(usual AFC crap!)...she did like me...i think i just messed up my game by playing the wrong games...plus she was a single mom and she was fvcking nuts where she had been hurt before,and how she is looking for the nice guy that treats her right instead of a jerk ect
so i play the good guy,play daddy get dominated and stop being c+f,misterious and fun,start opening up the emotions box of tricks,at first its fine and she seems happy with me,then...she gets used to this..stops waking me up and kissing me ...stops coming to sit with me on the couch...stops calling as much ect....so i pick up my game plan again....by only calling her once a week and letting her call me,this works,so i start introducing neg hits(think i was a bit rude),didnt go down well,i withdraw my body language and allow her to kiss touch me instead of being all over,again this works,so just when i think i have reeled her in i pull out some NLP via text message(not good,really takes offense,insulted),so i ring to appologise for that(beggining of the downhill slope!),i arrange to meet and she doesnt call so i say"you are wasting my time,you got no respect for me!!!,"i cant have that!"
so she sais "fvck you your dumped!"so i have been appologising perfusely like a b*tch eversince through fear of loosing her!i think i should have stood up to her more(b*tched)but i rolled over...man it really hits the ego hard when you get dropped
can people please point out my fatal errors(appart from have oneitis badly!)and what i should have done as a DJ to control the situation and make her run to me?
any way
I have been dropped by her so now its time to start breaking the chains of AFC and start upping my game!!!
How should i go about starting down my new path?
I have read some of the Bible but i wanted some first hand versions of how I should control that inner child/***** that keeps screaming for validation and start to build a strong mind so i dont roll over and can control my emotions and make women seek validation from me!?
Just got blown up by a chick for switching from being predictable to having a game plan,
I tried some moves i read ont the board thinking she would love it and she lost interest,
I have been appologising like a complete spanner for the last three days
till i came accross the archive file with the post about state of mind and justifying your reactions linked to enfatuation.
Done that and i feel much better like the whole "i will never meet anyone like this again" feeling has gone and i see her as just a person!
i cant beleive i compramised my respect to appologise for something that werent my fault...i am so angry and ashamed at myself!...i didnt want to loose her because i felt that she was the only person to really like me and we had a good connection(usual AFC crap!)...she did like me...i think i just messed up my game by playing the wrong games...plus she was a single mom and she was fvcking nuts where she had been hurt before,and how she is looking for the nice guy that treats her right instead of a jerk ect
so i play the good guy,play daddy get dominated and stop being c+f,misterious and fun,start opening up the emotions box of tricks,at first its fine and she seems happy with me,then...she gets used to this..stops waking me up and kissing me ...stops coming to sit with me on the couch...stops calling as much ect....so i pick up my game plan again....by only calling her once a week and letting her call me,this works,so i start introducing neg hits(think i was a bit rude),didnt go down well,i withdraw my body language and allow her to kiss touch me instead of being all over,again this works,so just when i think i have reeled her in i pull out some NLP via text message(not good,really takes offense,insulted),so i ring to appologise for that(beggining of the downhill slope!),i arrange to meet and she doesnt call so i say"you are wasting my time,you got no respect for me!!!,"i cant have that!"
so she sais "fvck you your dumped!"so i have been appologising perfusely like a b*tch eversince through fear of loosing her!i think i should have stood up to her more(b*tched)but i rolled over...man it really hits the ego hard when you get dropped
can people please point out my fatal errors(appart from have oneitis badly!)and what i should have done as a DJ to control the situation and make her run to me?
any way
I have been dropped by her so now its time to start breaking the chains of AFC and start upping my game!!!
How should i go about starting down my new path?
I have read some of the Bible but i wanted some first hand versions of how I should control that inner child/***** that keeps screaming for validation and start to build a strong mind so i dont roll over and can control my emotions and make women seek validation from me!?
